Should I get an abortion, adoption keep the child?

Question

I am now 13 and I have been pregnant 2 times and both of them times I had a miscarriage but the doctor said that this time the baby is going to live. We can afford to keep the baby but just bairly and we would rather get rid of it. So should we get and abortion or give my baby up for adoption?

Answer 1

I can't wait to see the responses for this question! Why do you young kids keep getting pregnant!!! What the heck is wrong with you! Abortion is not right, don't you know what causes pregnancy by now!

Answer 2

Boy, you are at an awfully young age to take full responsiblies of a baby. But one thing for sure is that you need to be aware that this is definitely the hardest task ever. If you combine your age plus the full responsiblies of a baby, you must be suffering big time. Having sex at age 13 just to get pregnant is unheard of.

If you have been raped, then I would consider abortion because you are too young to take good care of a baby. I know that there are people who say "give it up for adoption". However, there aren't a whole lot of people who really mean adoption.

Abortion should be legal if there's a reason that interferes with your life.

One more thing, a good age to have a baby would be at least age 25 and over.

Anyways, I cannot tell you what to do. But good luck and I guaranteed that you will have a hellish time with it.

Answer 3

Although you're old enough to menstruate, carrying a child at your age will be a huge undertaking for your body, which probably isn't fully developed yet. It will be an even bigger problem for you psychologically. Yes, you could have the child, but could you really bring it up? You probably feel like an adult (i know i did when i was 13), but you'll miss out on your formative years if you become a mother; let alone your education. Yes, you could have it adopted, but are you ready, physically and psychologically, to deal with carrying a child and giving it away? A termination is a viable option too, but is safest if it is done as early as possible. Don't let people bully you into having a baby if you're not ready for it, this is your decision and you have to live with your choice. Also, when you've had the baby/had a termination, you need to get on the pill, or better still,have a contraceptive implant inserted. Also, you should always use condoms - they protect you from STIs, pregnancy and cervical cancer. Good luck

Answer 4

honey u have been through alot at the age of 13. well did u want the baby before u had the miscarriages. if so, why not keep the baby for yourself and raise it. if ur thinking about abortion don't do it, just give the baby up for adoption. ur body can only take, but so many miscarriages and abortion. please, please, please after this baby, get some protection to prevent having a baby if u don't want to raise it or have enough money. u are too young to be getting pregnant and when u decide that u want to have children later in life, u won't be able to have any because of the many miscarriages u have already had. please don't help make a baby if u can't take care of the responsibilities that come with having a baby. God bless you and i hope u make the right decision.

Answer 5

You are 13 and you are pregnant? What are you thinking? First of all you shouldn't be having sex this young. Second of all the doctor DOES NOT know if this child is not going to be miscarried. They can say there is a very good chance that it will make it full term, but they don't know. They aren't God.
Why would you take life from a baby? It hasn't even had a chance to breathe a breath of this smog...ooh, I mean air. I think that you should be forced to at least have it, not keep it, but have it. You should have it vaginally, so you know that next time you have sex you could get pregnant AGAIN.
You are way too young to be thinking about getting pregnant and having kids and having SEX!

Answer 6

I'm pro choice, but I dont think you should get an abortion. Give the baby a chance to live its life. Plus abortion is painful to both you and the baby, and it could cause you major health problems. If anything, give it up for adoption. Then maybe when youre older, you can see it.

Answer 7

Oh, my GOD. Please tell me you're kidding about your age!!! What are you doing having unprotected sex at the age of THIRTEEN? That breaks my heart!!

You should do what your heart tells you to do with the baby, but personally at your age I would put the baby up for adoption.

After that, seriously consider either abstaining from sex till you're old enough to be responsible for your actions (like being able to raise a baby on your own - in other words, become an ADULT), or get seriously good birth control!!!

The pill or the shot would be best, but honestly, you should NOT be having sex at 12 or 13 or even 15, 16, or 17!! You need to be old enough to handle all that goes along with the ADULT activity of sex!!!!

Answer 8

I think if you don't know you can love and care for this child the way you need to, you should put it up for adoption there are hundreds of people like me who can't have children. Abortion is murder, if you don't believe me go to the web site abortion TV and see for your self. Just tell me when and where and I'll bring a lawyer! And I know there are all kinds of people in the same position as me who would love your baby as their own, and would give it everything they could.

Answer 9

Please don't let anyone hurt your baby. Your son or daughter is depending on you for love and protection. Don't let him or her down! You need to have all the facts so that you won't do something you'll regret the rest of your life:

Photos of Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

There is plenty of free help available for you. If you go to a pregnancy care center near you, they will give you referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; and counseling and emotional support. They may even be able to give you a free ultrasound so you can see your baby! You can find a center near you here:
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
or by calling 1-800-395-HELP.

You can connect with other teens who are or have been in your situation here:

http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

Adoption would be an excellent solution for both you and your baby. You would be free from guilt, and your baby would have a good life in a two-parent home. The adoptive parents generally pay your pregnancy expenses. If you choose an open adoption, you may be able to receive photos of your baby or even visit him or her! For more information on adoption, visit:

http://www.bethany.org

Answer 10

Sweetheart, giving the baby up for adoption is probably the best thing if you think you can handle the pregnancy. Once that's taken care of- you should SERIOUSLY consider going on some form of birth-control until you're ready & able to have a child you can love & take care of. You're making VERY important decisions here...-for both yourself & others. Be carefull with what you're doing with your body.

Answer 11

how's about you close your f*****g legs first. You're 13!! You have better things to do than to have unprotected sex with boys. If you keep aborting babies, you might end up permanently damaged and unable to have them in the future. Look, first of all, think of the child. If you did have it, you're going to resent the baby (face it, it's true). Then the kid will just as screwed up as his mom and the chain doesn't stop. Now, when you place a child for adoption, it really isn't fair for him. You have no idea how cruel orphenages are. Stop thinking that these boys are going to love you just because you give it up.