do you stick with the person if they are only a dreamer but when you try to help them they are lazy?
2006-07-28 09:41:49 · 10 answers · asked by Nicole B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, Dreams are the tiny seeds from which the tomorrow grows and NO, for lazy people.
2006-07-28 09:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by ashtre2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not lack of ambition. It's lack of self esteem. If a man's self esteem is high, he'll take risks in order to get rewards, feeling that if he's rejected, or fails: "heck, I'm good at this, I'll just try again!" If a man's self esteem is low, he avoids taking risks because his ego can't afford to take the hit. If he suffers rejection or failure, it would hurt, so he avoids the whole issue, avoiding the chance of success in order to avoid the possibility of failure.
If self esteem is bad enough, he'll sit on the couch and not even look for a job. He'd rather be broke and unemployed than risk applying for work and getting rejected, or even getting a job that isn't "cool".
He "dreams" because he can fantasize about being successful without taking the risk of failure, even if the risk is remote.
Little you can do to boost his self esteem. Take a hard look at the guy. If he has the potential to break out of this cycle, grow a pair, go out and take a chance, then... take the chance. If not, find another.
2006-07-28 16:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by antirion 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no. u cant make someone do something they dont want to do. ur a good friend to be a supporter and encourage that person. but until that person decides to move and take action, there is nothing u can do. no longer bring up the matter. if they start to tell u about there dreams listen if u want then change the subject because u already know they only have excuses for not putting their dreams into actions. be there for that person, but dont stress over something they're not even stressing over.
2006-07-28 16:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by Vizhen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lifes about the ride, not the destination. If the dreamer only dreams, and has a steady job,and putting food on the table, and a roof over your head, why do you care?
2006-07-28 16:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
A dreamer who doesn't work to attain his dream is just a dreamer - turned - loser.
A dreamer who is out there trying to empower himself and reach the step-by-step goals is the dreamer - turned - winner.
You need a winner who's a "keeper".
You can't change this guy's nature. He is who he is.
You weren't put on this earth to "save" him.
He will only frustrate you with his "couch dreams".
Respect yourself.
Empower yourself.......... and move on.
2006-07-28 16:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by Primrose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dreams get u nowhere, its what action u put into reaching the dream that matters. Besides, u can't help someone that doesn't want it.
2006-07-28 16:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by hisladytish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Don't stick with losers, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-07-28 16:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say no, once a loser, always a loser in my book! Something has to change their lives!
2006-07-28 16:54:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
heII NO They are only going to hold you down you are judged by the company you keep
2006-07-28 16:45:23 · answer #9 · answered by smitty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. You won't be happy.
2006-07-28 17:21:24 · answer #10 · answered by ANGELa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋