It's My Life Now - Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence by Meg Dugan and Roger Hock, PHD is a great book to get you back on track.
2006-07-28 09:38:45 · 14 answers · asked by matchcom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yeah i was but when i broke up wit him he realized i was important we got back 2gether and changed a whole lot
2006-07-28 09:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Kendra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I was in an abusive marriage for 25 years. The first 10 years was physical abuse, the next 15 he stopped hitting me and used words to hurt and manipulate. Why did I stay? I was taught to keep the sacred wedding vow no matter what plus he gave me the gift of such low self esteem I didn't care. The books you suggested weren't available at the time. I'm sure happy they are on the market now to help others. P.S. This first husband died in an auto accident. I've since remarried a wonderful man who treats me like gold (and vice-versa). We've been married for 14 years going on forever.
2006-07-28 16:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I did it for 11 years. Didn't start until after the marriage. He didn't hit me outright or anything. More emotional than anything else by telling everyone I was ugly, he married me out of pity, my nose was too big, and anything else he could say to hurt me. Then after 7 years that is when he'd start pinching my wrists until a cyst grew because of it which resulted in an operation to get it out. Or he'd do the Spock from Star Trek move on my shoulders to see if he could make me pass out. I'd walk around for days with bruises. After 11 years, I was glad when he came home to tell me he'd found another woman. Divorce was sweet bliss.
2006-07-28 16:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I also was in one abusive relationship after another 3 marriages 3 divorces and countless abusers,I finally realized,after sobering up the problem was me I sought out these type of men and at some crazy level found comfort in the familiarity of an abusive relationship,it is all to easy to blame the abuser when I look at my part in it I have changed so very much,Thanks to God,AA,Sponsorship and learning a new way of coping ,living life on life's terms I am extremely grateful to be alive and sober today.Do not get me wrong I dated/lived with some real evil men it is only through the grace of God I am alive,any one in an abusive relationship get out NOW!it will not get better until you do.
2006-07-28 17:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i will NEVER let a man do that to me. I control my life and NO ONE can tell me what to do. I am too good for that kind of life. The first sign of controlling or abusive behavior means I'm out!!!
2006-07-28 16:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by hunniebun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe der is no end 2 an abusive relationship and your spouse will haunt you down and kill you. A person who is abusive cannot get better neither can murders. Get to know a person before you get into a serious relationship
2006-07-28 16:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no im 28 and ive only been with two men in my life guess what i've never been hit cursed at or anything because my man know that im prepared for what ever i keep me a loaded 32 with all six rounds in it and trust me if it comes to it i WILL use it ...... just show them that you can be crazy as hell too
2006-07-28 16:49:29 · answer #7 · answered by libby71763 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been in one but my mom was and she stayed with the guy for some years. As a child I was helpless to help my mom after he beat her. I would cry all the time and finally, God gave her the strength to have him arrested and to this day he is still in jail. Praise God!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-28 16:43:02 · answer #8 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a abusive relationship 2yrs ago i finally had the backbone
to break up with his ***. my life is pleasant now thank the lord.
2006-07-28 17:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by dee101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife was physically abusive.
I just divorced her and moved on with my life.
I could have taken her out with the back of my hand.
I dont hit women.
Sorry to you women that have to struggle with these issues.
2006-07-28 16:47:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋