My boyfriend and I have had sex several times. But he won't touch me or try to satisfy me. I have to do all the work in bed. Is he just using me? Is he just unexperienced? Help!
2006-07-28 09:37:22 · 12 answers · asked by Secret A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is either inexperienced, or a selfish lover. You need to find out which. Try talking dirty to him on the phone, tell him what you want him to do. Suggest in in bed, and if he won't do it, he is selfish, and you probably won't change that, I would leave the relationship. But, if he does try, guide his hands, encourage him, tell him when things are good. He may just be nervous, if this is the case, he's inexperienced, which is great, you can make him do anything, just teach him, he's probably scared to hurt you or shy.
2006-07-28 09:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl i go through the same thing with my bf i thought i was all by myself. I just think they like the girl to take controll because it was maybe once or twice my boyfriend took control in bed and laid it down! so i dont think he's unexperienced. maybe you should tell him how you feel and ask why is he not taking controll. You just gave me the idea to ask my bf, thanx.
good luck!
2006-07-28 09:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by Tbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just horribly inept in bed. The tough part is telling him so without hurting his feelings.
I'd recommend finding an online version of either 'The joy of sex.' or the 'Kama Sutra' and just check it out with him as a 'Hey honey, look what I found.' Look it over together and make it a playful, fun learning experience.
2006-07-28 10:04:37 · answer #3 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him what you want. Maybe he has no clue try telling him I would love it if you... Show him how you like to be touched he would love that as well.
2006-07-28 09:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a sex pervert. The only thing he wants is sexx. so beat him and dump him. Or maybe your ugly or something you told him
2006-07-28 09:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay Maybe...just a thought
2006-07-28 09:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by spectrovision69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need too talk to him about why we wont help you in the bed.
2006-07-28 09:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by MRZ.KAY KAY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he hasnt gotta clue .... if ya want to get touched .......drop me a line
2006-07-28 09:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by ibrushallday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought of investigating if he's gay?
2006-07-28 09:54:09 · answer #9 · answered by Zelda drinks tea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are the two of you?
2006-07-28 09:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Littlemiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋