Why is it that people who are homo or bisexual get shunned all the time? Also, I have a bisexual friend who wants me, but I'm having mixed feelings, & I need help. I wanna stay straight because I don't want my family to disown me. Well, they already disowned me for other reasons. & like if I were 2 turn BI, would I really go 2 hell 4 it?
2006-07-28 09:33:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You need to listen to your heart, not your family. If your family places your sex life above their love for you, I'd say find a new family because their priorities are a little skewered. Try it with your friend. You just might find yourself in love and at peace.
Make your own peace with your spirituality. The Bible was written by uptight, hypocritical, misogynistic men.
2006-07-28 11:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by ninusharra 4 · 9⤊ 4⤋
No, it is not wrong to be gay or bi or straight.
You do not "turn" bi or gay. You may "discover" or "accept" that you are, but you do not "turn". And no, you will not go to hell for your sexual orientation.
As for your friend, it's just like any other relationship. You need to figure out your feelings for them. Do you feel attracted to them? If so, in what ways? Take it step-by-step and see what happens.
You say your family has already disowned you for other reasons, so why worry about how they will feel about your sexuality? I know it is natural for people to want acceptance from their family, but if they can not accept you for who you are, fine. Make a new family.
Discovering one's sexuality, expecially in North America, can be daunting. Surround yourself with supportive friends and be careful. As with anything to do with matters of the heart, please be careful. Good luck!
2006-07-28 17:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by Dion V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is short. You don't have to define yourself if you have doubts. All you have to do is go for the person who you love or want to be with. If it's reciprocal, then you ought to feel lucky. Few people, specially preachers, have no idea how it feels like to be with someone u love and forgetting the rest of the world.
Even if it doesn't last, u will learn a lot about yourself, and everyone around u will get the best in you;)
2006-07-28 17:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it wrong to breath, well your life is yours to live how ever you see fit.. As for your parents you already said they disowned you, RIGHT? No need to let that worry you any more..If infact you do want to try Bi, and I believe you have already made up your mind about it, Well I dont really think you'll go to hell for it...Keep it to your self and tyr it if you like it Great, if not well you can alwasy go stright again.. Your friend from Tennessee...ROB
2006-07-28 16:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not going to hell for being bi. anyone who says so is a typical reatraded religious parson. only stupid relious fanatics will say u r goin to for being bi or gay. these people are the ones who r goin to hell,and deservedlly so. if u want to be bi then go for. hell i think its hot for a woman to be bi. u cant fight feelings anyways so if u got feelings for a bi friend then dont try to fight it cuz it will only make it worse. if ur parents dissown u for being bi then they will be in hell right along side those piece of trash religious people i spoke of. do what makes u happy.
side note: dont listen to bams and mculasso cuz they are exactly what i am talking about when i mention stupid religious people!
side notte: the bible is completely full of bull-sh*t and should not be taken serious at all.
2006-07-28 16:40:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately not. It's perfectly ok.
Oh, and when I came out, I did a lot of research into the bible, reading all the passages aparently about being gay, and almost all of them are taken out of context completely. The one or two that are talking about it are written by biggoted people who write other things like never eat shell fish and it's ok to sell our daughter into slavery. Jesus or God never once say anything about sexuality.
I'm of the opinion that God has no problem with queer people, so whatever you discover about yourself, feel good about it. It's too bad about your family, perhaps they will one day come to accept you for whatever reason they dissowned you.
2006-07-28 16:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by Shaun B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you cannot "turn" into a bisexual, you might be curious about it but you are born bi, straight, or lesbian/gay. You don't turn and they can't turn you. There is nothing wrong with being a bisexual, love is love.
Myths & Realities About Bisexuality:
http://www.hrc.org/Template.cfm?Section=Coming_Out_as_Bi&Template=/ContentManagement/ContentDisplay.cfm&ContentID=32351
2006-07-28 17:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
becoming disillusioned about your sexuality will not send you to hell... so neither will going gay or lesbian. Of course, by the same token staying straight will not get you to heaven either.
As for God's position on this, he has made it abundantly clear and I don't think I need to reiterate it.
Essentially, turn to same sex relationships feels like a betrayal to others, I think this is related to my above reference with God, but am not sure.
2006-07-28 16:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by Archer Christifori 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well say whatever tell me can u actually stop thinking about it.I f u like it u should do it.whatever happens is the truth and if u compromise it then u should know why u r doing it
2006-07-28 17:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by Tom Cruise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the bible it says that a man shall not lie with another man(counts for a woman to) and if you were to do that you would be disobeying god wich is a sin and the bible also says that if u dont ask him to forgive u of your sins and stop doing them u will go to hell....................so ya theres ur answer,good luck,god bless u!
2006-07-28 16:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋