how do u get over loneliness in your life.?

Question

im sort of in a funny place, ive got lots of friends, but it doesnt feel like we have a lot of common any more. since everything and everyone revolves around the couple in our group. im not jealous, just alone. what should i do?

Answer 1

loniness sucks, just stay as busy as possible and when the time is right love will find you.

Answer 2

I find that lonliness is an addictiion. One can get over it.

Many who are lonely (and I speak from experience) only disclose this information for attention. True they don't feel complete, but instead, they catch a sense of being listened to by sharing with those who are willing to listen. In my experience, I found the following, definite ways to keep me from thinking just how lonely I am:

There are books to read - get lost in a great romance. If we can't live the romance, we could get lost in the dream.

There are movies to watch - watch an old classic .. like 'Gone with the Wind'. Now Scarlett O'Hara, there was one lonely woman. She overcame her loneliness by learning to believe in herself.

There are sports - go for a walk - a swim - play basketball. Granted this may be way out there - but think about it - so might that someone special who may just enjoy exactly what you are doing.

How about 'Singles Clubs' - never hold back - the possibilities are endless. Always welcome the chance to meet everyone - you may just never know - that same person braving a 'hello' may be trying to get over their loneliness.

Either way, it comes back to you - are you going to sit and wallow in your own loneliness, or are you actually going to get up .. dust yourself off, and do something about it?

Thanks for the question, I'm finding that it's quite self-therapeutic to provide you with an answer.

Answer 3

Get a new hobby, or take some new classes at a college, maybe a conversational foreign language, or a culinary class. If you have something new and interesting going on, then people would focus more on you, not that you totally get their attention all the time, but when you do its about something important to you too, and not just a hangin out type of thing.Continue to try and make yourself a better person. Maybe you could even meet friends at these new classes.

Answer 4

I'm almost 58. in my day we called it being the third wheel. the odd person. in school and right out of school i wasn't popular. I'm not saying you aren't popular but i have been where you are now. i had friends too. i figured out two things and i hope they make sense to you. the first thing i figured out was i was part of the problem. i didn't think enough of myself. so to try and change this part at least once a day,usually in the mornings when i got up, i kept telling myself, as i looked in the mirror, what a good person i was and I'm ok the way i am. the second thing i figured out was as we mature we all change at a different rate and way. i kept the friends i had but i started looking for other friends and things that felt more comfortable. it takes some time but don't let it get it to you. good luck.

Answer 5

Here's the day you hoped would never come i know you think it's more than just bad luck, There there baby it's just text book stuff it's in the ABC of growing up. There are many other friends you can find out there that would want you to be in there group as more than just a conversation buddy.

Answer 6

Try to get the focus off yourself.
I don't mean that in a "mean" way.... but if you fret about your lonliness, it keeps it first and foremost in your mind.
Try volunteering after work.... with kids, at church, with the elderly, etc.
It sounds like it's time to make a new set of friends.
Join a club.... get involved in your community.
Before you know it.... you will have surrounded yourself with a lot of potentially good friends.
Then....... start making lunch dates..... shopping dates...... have them over to watch a chick-flick (tell them to bring a box of Kleenex with them)
Have cookouts with neighbors.
Volunteer at a vet's office.... working with animals is wonderful.... they don't judge us by what we look like or where we live or what we do for a living.... they just NEED us and you NEED them.
Get a new pet to care for.
Go dancing.
Take an art or craft class.
Do something that will keep you busy..... seriously..... before you know it... your life will be full and you won't be lonely anymore.

Answer 7

If those friends are not making you happy then you need to find friends that make you feel comfortable and you wont feel lonely. I know how it feels to go through loneliness cause I don't really have many people around me besides family and it gets lonely too. Life is what you make of it and live it to the fullest.

Answer 8

Well I don't have any "friends" anymore.... all my friends from when I was younger have moved away... I moved away.... and I haven't found people I really like hanging out with or share the same interests with so I have found other things to do that I really like... such as reading, looking up things I have an interest in, etc...

Answer 9

I am a guy and have been alone for about 4 years now.
If you dont think about it it is'nt so bad.
You just have to accept that you are alone and do something to change it or just deal with it.
Either way being alone does have its own set of advantages.

Answer 10

find new friends with similar interests. Its nice to think you can be friends with the same people forever but people change with time. This doesn't mean you have to ditch your old friends just try talking to different people they may surprise you.

hope this helps.

Answer 11

stop hang around them so much. right now, you don't need that. ask yourself," what do i like to do?" since, you're single, there are tons of stuff to do on the fly. go have your hair done, by something nice for yourself. enjoy life. get out there and have fun.