I have been married almost 2 years and been together with my husband for 8 years. We have a 5 year old daughter together, my problem isssssssssss is that I want another baby and have wanted one for at least 2 years. last year I made it known that by my 30th birthday I wanted to become pregnant or I was DONE!! I am a stay at home mom right now and my daughter is going to school and I want to either have another baby or go back to work and suck it up. My birthday is august 10th so times approching. My husband and i have great communication and he knows my stance first he said we need another car soo we bought him one then he said we need a bigger apartment so we got one (5 months ago .... now it's well I want to be more stable for Goodness sake enough with the daym excuses I am sick of this rolller coaster ride and am thinking of going to get an iud until I can scheduale surgury I am soooooooo sad by this but I can't live this we do it or i'm done having ids and give up my dream...
2006-07-28 09:05:00 · 7 answers · asked by mschievous163 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
It sounds to me that he either doesn't want another one or he might be scared to have another. It took my husband and me 8 years to finally conceive through IVF. I wanted another because we had frozen embryos that I didn't want to leave behind. That is another story...anyway, he didn't want to have anymore. He has an older son from a previous relationship. Well, by God's grace I got pregnant on our own. He was not thrilled, but like someone said earlier, the minute he saw his lil' boy, he couldn't take his eyes of of him.
Personally, I think it has something to do about being the "bread winner." Maybe he is afraid that you all just can't afford another one. It is hard for men sometimes when they are the only one bringing in money. I think you need to sit and ask him if he is afraid of the money situation or if he just really doesn't want another one. His might be thinking of the future in regards to a house or a betther standard of living. (Not that apartments are bad, I lived in one all my childhood). If you have good relationship, I would hope that he will be honest with you. Good Luck to you!
2006-07-28 09:53:16 · answer #1 · answered by Bug's Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with others who have posted.."it doesn't seem as though he really wants another child."
If I were you, I would have a heavy heart to heart talk, again with your husband, and express you feelings, and then ask him to express how he feels, and tell him to be totally honest..if he really doesn't want another child..give him the opportunity to express his feelings..without repercussions.
Once everyone has their true feelings out in the open, then plans can be made for the future..you may choose to get a tubal ligation, a job and move on.
Remember, you must be willing to respect his feelings.
It is always best to bring a child into the world that is "truly" wanted.
Good Luck :)
Instead of giving so much focus to what you don't have, focus on what you do have...one healthy, beautiful child, a loving...husband and father for your child.
2006-07-28 09:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by swampfox conservative 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 33 my wife will be 33 on july 30th, and we've been married since last October. Neither of us have other kids, and I know she REALLY want's one. I told her last week that she can come off the pill but that we won't start trying for another 3 months or so. I like kids (other peoples kids), but I figure what the heck. I don't want more then one. Why? Because kids are expensive and I grew up poor. I want to give my kid more then my parent were able to give me, but at the same time I don't want to give up the things I want either.
So talk to your husband and really let him know how you feel, but let him know that his feelings are just as important as yours. He may not want to have another baby, but also doesn't want to let you down.
2006-07-28 09:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by Titus M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he really doesn't want another baby. With you being able to stay at home and your daughter already being 5 I cant imagine what would be stopping him. Have a heart to heart with him and find out if he really wants anymore children. If he does he needs to take in consideration your feelings on the age you want to stop having children. Good luck!
2006-07-28 09:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well- if you too love each other-you should be able to come to a comprimise. try and figure out why he's really stalling-talk to him and try and tell him everything you said (WITHOUT ULTIMATIMS)
2006-07-28 09:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are guys ever really ready. The day that child is born he will not know how he ever existed without it. If you want one, have one, it's you choice.
2006-07-28 09:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
so get preggie, is your body? don't really understand the big deal here, just tell him you must have missed a pill or somthing, theres a chance with every birth control.
2006-07-28 09:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋