She is very upset & confused..what would you do if you were in her shoes,, if you knew that your baby would pass on, before of after birth would you keep it. she is 5 months and wants to terminate her pregancy.
2006-07-28 08:57:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would terminate it. She could risk health issues, and would just be prolinging the inevitable. I am sorry for your friend, and for you obviously you're concerned, but if her baby has no hope, she needs to think of herself. Support her and assure her she is doing what is best.
2006-07-28 09:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is very sad. I'm assuming she knows the outcome for these poor children. I wouldn't have terminated if my baby had it though, because what little life the baby has can still be worthwhile .She will love her baby, and can give him or her a good life. If she has an abortion she will greive, just as she will when the baby passes on, so she wouldn't be saving herself or the baby anything.
I work with infants with special needs and I have worked with 2 families who had children with Trisomy 18. Neither family says that they wish they had abortions, in fact they are glad they made the decision to keep their boys. The boys have brought the families much joy, despite all the issues going on with them.
2006-07-28 16:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a question that only your friend can answer...even if people think they know what they would do- how can they? Most of us have never known the pain of loving a child we are pregnant with and knowing that the child won't have the kind of life we dreamed for it.
Neither decision is easy. Ending a wanted pregnancy because the child will likely not live to be born is a terrible, sad thing to experience...just like giving birth to a child and watching him pass away. Whatever her decision, she needs to be surrounded by love and support and she will need good friends to talk to and cry with.
I'm sure you must be very sad right now too. Hang in there.
-michelle
2006-07-28 16:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not limited to how the parents feel or how they will cope. It is also what the child will have to go through. Although this is not as bad as some other genetic diseases, it will hamper the child's development to a large extent and may prevent him/her from leading a normal, healthy life.
However, there are medical procedures to correct some of the deficiencies associated with this disorder and sound medical advice or genetic counseling is highly recommended.
2006-07-28 16:08:28 · answer #4 · answered by the beleiver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, she made that choice and plus that child didn't ask to be here your friend doesn't know how blessed she is to be able to concive a child most women can't even give birth....And plus she can't get an abortion because she's too far into the pregancy she should have terminated the pregancy when she first learned she was pregrant or by 4 months into the pregancy...good luck...hope my advice helps out...
2006-07-28 16:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by talor h 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
That is her choice to make and only she can make it. Just stick by her and comfort her no matter what she decides. She will need good friends to help her through this.
2006-07-28 16:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Nikky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋