I'm only a kid and my dad is always saying rude and just plain messed up things about gay people. Once, I was watching Will And Grace and my dad said "they should call it fa.g and grace". I hate him for being homohobic, but I don't know what to do about it. Can you help?
2006-07-28 08:40:02 · 16 answers · asked by SchnitzelMUSIC 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
So you know, I am not gay. But it still bugs me sooo much.
(please dont aswer that God can help, I'm not a strong believer in God)
2006-07-28 08:48:12 · update #1
Sadly, it's something very much ingrained in our society. I'd just discuss it with him, see why he makes those comments, and let him know how you feel. Worst case scenario, ask that he not make those sort of comments around you.
2006-07-28 09:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by me41987 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well one day like every homophob out there will once experience someone they care about being gay. Hopefully his grandchildren, They usually have to make a decision to love them or to break there hearts. Either way they will have to face there ****. God does have a sense of humor.
As for right now, just tell your dad it bugs you. Tell him the more he says things is the more you want to be that. I'm sure hell shut his mouth.
2006-07-28 08:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry for you. My dad is the SAME exact way, and I probably will never end up telling him. My mom and my siblings know, and it puts a strain on the family dynamics. I have a very strained relationship with my father because of his views, and it is so unfortunate. I know it's hard, and it will probably be just as hard down the line. But you have to remember to stay true to yourself, or else you won't find the hapiness you are looking for. It's a shame that people like our fathers end up hurting their children so much instead of loving them like they should. Good luck. I wish you all the best.
2006-07-28 08:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't hate your dad. He is reacting to what he learned and his life experiences. I don't like what he said either, but he is your father. Continue to love him, and just wish he would see the world differently. But I'm sorry, there is no magic wand to wave over his head to change him.
In the meantime, to the extent it is possible for you to do so, let him know that you have a different view, and give him some reasons. Don't argue with him, and if it is going to be a problem between you, leave it alone. But if he can see that you are a good kid, who respects all different kinds of people, he'll repsect you for your opinions, and it is possible...not probable, but possible that one day he'll see gay people in a different light.
2006-07-28 08:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romans 10
Ephesians 6:1-3
2006-07-28 08:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by robert p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing you can do about your dad, he won't change unless he's ready............I'm glad you know what you believe. just stay strong, don't let it ruin your relationship with him. i was an orphan at 10 you'll miss him when he's gone.frankly as long as you live with him I'd keep it to myself. i know it sucks to bite your tongue when someones being hateful and cruel but you won't gain anything by arguing with him. it won't be long before you're on your own and you'll be free to do and say as you believe until then just make peace and be the bigger person, sometimes parents could learn a lot from their children i hope one day you get the chance to enlighten your dad.
2006-07-29 22:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? if you're over the age of, say, 15ish tell him you've got some gay friends and that he's being a bigot, and that it's really not funny. Answer any questions as best you can (he might be surprised that people don't fit his stereotypes etc).
2006-07-29 22:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not homophobic. He just doesn't like the thought of gay people. It's not a crime. It doesn't mean he's afraid of anything. He just doesn't like the gay lifestyle. Get over it.
2006-07-28 08:44:38 · answer #8 · answered by spockofvullcan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he know that your gay? maybe that will change his mind.
my father has the same opinion about will and grace. he says that i shouldn't be watching it because there are gay people in it.
2006-07-28 08:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by boricua82991 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem too. my dad seems to have a big prob with gays. my mum, who's more understanding, tries to tell him to be more accepting, but he refuses.
thats the reason i havent told them im gay yet...
2006-07-28 08:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋