I need help with my relationship?

Question

My mate and i were having trouble in the sex department he do not want to have sex with me and when he does it fells forced it's killing me inside and I ask him about it alot but he ssid it's from all the thing thats going on in his life ( everyday problems work, family,money) I don't think he's cheating because he never go anywhere from work to home every day same time like clock work never out on his off days either. This is making me want to see other men not cheat but tell him i want to but i'm scared he will leave me or is that what he really wants what do you guys think

Answer 1

My old boyfriend only had sex with me about every 6 months or so. We went the last year with no contact at all. I asked him about it, got the I'm Stressed talk also. After 3 years of nothingness out of him, I finally left and that's when he admitted that although he was in a relationship with me at the time, he just didnt' feel committed to me therefore didn't want sex with me either.

Not saying it's the same thing in your relationship, just what happened in mine. But, if his life at work or with family, etc. is getting him down, that really could be the reason. Only he can tell you the truth.

Answer 2

Hmmm, don't know about other guys. But I've been very stressed out before. But it never caused me to want to have little to no sex. If anything I wanted it more. Sex is a GREAT stress reliever! One of the things I love about it.

Talk to him about it. Get everything all out in the open. 1. It'll help him to eleviate some of the stress. 2. Something might be brought up that can be the problem. and 3. You may just find the answer your looking for.

COMMUNICATION!

Answer 3

You don't want to tell him that you want to cheat because that might make matters worst. There is probable alot going on with work, family, money etc. Stress can be a big part of it. Have you asked him about going and talking to someone, together or just by himself? Maybe try sitting down and talking with him, ask him to tell you everything that is on his mind. Let him talk and you do the listening. Having him talk about it, might help with all the stress that is built up.

Answer 4

I dont know what to tell you but don't think that just becuase you think hes not cheating doesn't mean he isn't. I speak from experience...My husband has 2 jobs and still managed to cheat. They find the time whether it be working late or leaving a little early or a quickie at lunch. Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but look at all sides.

Answer 5

Maybe the problem is that he's bored - not with sex per say, but with your whole relationship? Do you guys go out together, do you often do fun things? It's important to have fun together, especially if he's stressed out at work.

Stress can cause temporary loss of libido, but if it continues for months it would help to see a doctor. Depression could be a cause, too.

Answer 6

Stress can really bring a man "down" in every sense of the word. However relationships also get old. Maybe you should discuss heating things up with forms of sex play you haven't tried together, or even trying a little "swinging" and/or a threesome. If that doesn't get your man excited, he should see a doctor.

Good luck

Answer 7

I am in the same position he is in and it just makes it hard to perform stress has a very negative impact on your sex life just try to do relaxing things to take his mind off of his worries and i guarantee you will have great sex it worked for me just give it time hang tuff good luck

Answer 8

if you aint happy u should leave. why should you make your accomodations meet his needs or why is that your needs aren't fullfilled. he may have a lot of stress in other aspects that can cause him to fail in sex but he has to realize that stuff like that happens all the time and he should not think of it as a life ending situation. for you it depends on how you feel if your down for him stay but if you need to get what your needs are then you should leave.

Answer 9

If he is doing all that, why would you think about seeing someone else. Sounds like you might have a good man, you just don't know how to keep him happy, and if you continue like that you might have to find you a new man , cause he is gonna start looking some where else.

Answer 10

I think you should take the lead in the department of foreplay. You do the rubbing and kissing to get things started, see if he comes around, if not look me up