my wife wanted to learn swimming and asked me to arrange for it. i took the help of my best friend who is an expert swimmer and also a good coach and teaches in the pool near our house. i asked my friend and he obliged to personally coach her and is doing so atpresent. my wife who used to be shy when i ask her to dress in two piece for me at home is comfortable with this attire (swim suit) with him. she is at ease with it infront of him. i feel jealous and angry. what should i do?
2006-07-28 08:18:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Stop being a baby. You're the one who set this up. Maybe she's feeling better about herself now. She may wear one next time you two are together (unless you ruin it by making her mad).
2006-07-28 08:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too late now. You should have signed up the class at the Y. Try and do nothing.
Just be observant and maybe drop in on the lesson every now and then. If the jealousy continues before the lesson ends, let her know how you feel and admit that it was a bad idea. Ask her to be honest and reveal if there is any flirting going on. Ask her to end the lessons.
2006-07-28 08:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your wife is just finally getting comfortable in her own skin and there is NOTHING wrong with that. I am 28 and it just happened for me. Give her a break...Most people learn to swim as kids, so apparently she didn't have all the advantages growing up. She's YOUR wife, she married you didn't she? She probably doesn't care because YOU arranged it.
2006-07-28 08:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by mizzmisti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you're going through this. As strange as it sounds you two can be physically intimate but she might not comfortable with showing you her body 100%? Are you a very complimentary husband or a very critical one? I think these small changes can make a big difference. You should definitely talk to her about your feelings and ask her about it in a non-confrontational manner. Good luck
2006-07-28 08:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by leufiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was at your suggestion that this friend is coaching your wife. How your wife reacts in front of him is NOT his fault. If you feel threatened by this, get someone else to teach swimming to your wife.
2006-07-28 08:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is swimming man...of course she has to wear the attire!
Maybe your friend is doing so well with the job, he make sure it's professional and it makes her feel comfortable dressing that way...
I personally wont continue the swimming course if he doesn't make me feel comfortable with what i am wearing...think positive..
2006-07-28 08:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by belle_chocolatiere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man get over it, some people just have a way of making a person feel comfortable.
2006-07-28 08:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you don't like the idea of your best friend eye humping your wife and ask her to respect your feelings and only to wear it for you. say it is special to you if she would or something along those lines. Good Luck!!
2006-07-28 08:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by Jimbo23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, one, learn how to write a complete sentence so we know what you are talking about.
Two, how long have you been married? Is there a chance you've been married for a while and maybe you aren't paying as much attention to her?
Show her more attention, compliments... and watch the friend closely. lol
2006-07-28 08:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by Nosy news 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were looking for trouble the second you suggested that your good friend work with your wife. You can't stop human nature.
2006-07-28 08:22:31 · answer #10 · answered by Shebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋