I thought I did, he always tell since b4 our 1st time having sex, that he would never cheat on me & has always told me since then that he would never cheat on me. So now 6 years & 2 kids later I just can't figure why he would seriously want to invite another girl into our bed. I thought what we had was sacred.
2006-07-28 08:14:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why would he have to tell you he would never cheat on you? Sounds like it was on his mind all the time,but guys do go thru this stage where they think variety is the spice of life when actually its just the start of mischief,sorrow and all kinds of problems. Its ok to fantasize but once you carry it out life is never the same,it gets harder to love the one your with, you always have this inner thought about someone else. To a woman in love sex is sacred, to a guy he separates his sex, sometimes his sex is just sex and other times he gets into the loving sex where he does feel a closeness and sacred touch to him,you can tell by wether he wants to just have rough sex or if he wants to hug,kiss,take his time and get some meaning out of it. Change things up a bit and take a stance that no its not ok to invite another women into our bed,he needs to separate fantasy with reality
2006-07-28 08:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by bearbrown_51 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Oh so you are saying he wants a threesome, don't get too upset this is a very very common guy fantasy. I understand that you are hurt but his having this fantasy does NOT mean he will cheat if you don't want to do it. Plus its just not a good idea anyway, it can be a fun fantasy to talk about or think about but actually doing it is a very bad move for any couple and I'd say for you especially. Tell him how betrayed you feel, tell him how much he hurt you, tell him its never going to happen and tell him you prefer NEVER to hear it mentioned again. Hopefully you are willing to do things to keep the bedroom exciting when its just you and him, the same old thing gets boring to everyone after a while, but perhaps he would lose this fantasy if you tried something new that didn't involve other people.
2006-07-28 08:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its frequently that they have got a favor to, and the prospect. such countless human beings available make themselves accessible to the married individual, and if there is any situation in the marriage some human beings will leave the marriage because they're attempting to flee and bypass on to the position they somewhat trust that they are going to discover happiness. someone with a low self properly worth will cheat because the dishonest makes them experience wanted and loved in the initiating. the recent individual will stroke their ego's, supply them something they choose and cause them to imagine that they don't love the better half anymore, in the initiating. merely too a lot of human beings keen to come back between a guy and spouse, the guidelines do not preserve the married individual anymore, too many no fault divorce states, the position u ought to do besides the reality that and nonetheless finally end up with 0.5 the as setts.
2016-11-26 21:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married to my wife for 18 years and I have never cheated on her and I love her more now than I did when I married her. Some people are really dumb and easily lead. Those who like to brag about how it's OK to cheat are just trying to justify their own shortcomings but unfortunately encourage others to do the same.
2006-07-28 08:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A union of two people, legally married or not is sacred. It is unreasonable for him to invite another woman into your bed.
2006-07-28 08:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have is sacred, and he is an a$$ for even mentioning someone else in your bed. And I don't care what anyone else has to say about it............can't "ANYTHING" be sacred anymore? I mean really, you are the mother of HIS children for crying out loud.
2006-07-28 08:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do; 3 years and going strong. :) It sounds like your hubby/bf just wants to try something new. I'd like to try that too, but because my wife doesn't want to, I'm respecting her wishes. Would I go out and hook up with some other woman? No, but if she was up for that, then I'd be all over it... Maybe your guy is just getting bored with your sex life? Talk to him about it. ;)
2006-07-28 08:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by inaccord18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither
2006-07-28 08:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by cj_justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can try anotehr too!!
2006-07-28 08:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by snow l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋