Crying dream?

Question

My boyfriend and I, have been going through a lot for the past few years... Last week I had a dream that I was on the phone with him talking. However, in the dream I felt hurt, so I started crying uncontrollably while I was on the phone with him. The crying was so deep intense that I can still feel it. I felt heart broken.

Since then it seems as if I don't trust him more, and suspects everything that he does. That dream really messed me up.

What can that mean?

Answer 1

It means you really need some counseling my dear. It was a dream for crying out loud, not real life. Dreams are just our brains processing what went on during our day or over a period of time. Our brains catalog things while we sleep, which causes dreams. Because our brains do not file things away in the same places, we have some pretty amazing dreams while our brain takes the information and combines it with other information. It was just a normal dream, and could be a sign you are feeling vulnerable and insecure right now.

Listen, your boyfriend did not do anything for you to be suspicous of him just because you had a dream. This is not fair to him and he deserves to be treated as he conducts himself. If he is good to you and has not given you any reason to distrust him he needs and deserves to have you trust him.

If you were hurt in a previous relationship and brought it into this relationship, then that experiance is now affecting your current relationship. This is why I said you need counseling. So you can get the assistance you need to work out these hurts and put them behind you. This is not about the man you are with right now, but about your past.

Your brain often takes out old information when it is processing new information and deciding where to place the new. Often the new gets placed with the old, which is why we often have dreams of people in our past interacting with those of our present. Even though these people never met, they meet in your brain via a dream while the brain is proccessing information.

Don't place any importance on dreams. There is nothing about dreams which predict the future. Dreams are incapable of predicting the future as the information being processed is all in the past, even if it just occurred earlier in the day, or even just minutes before you fell asleep.

Don't sabatoge your current relationship over a dream.

Answer 2

Dreams are highly subjective experiences, very personal. A dream dictionary would be a useful item for you to purchase since it has an index where you can find the symbols, events, and characters of your dreams. A dream dictionary will give you an idea of what the dream may have meant according to what dream psychologists think it means.
I own several dream dictionaries and they all have similar things to say about certain themes or characters, but I have always thought that if a dream really meant anything at all that the meaning would be a personal one and not a universal one. You know, not a one-size-fits-all meaning. Sometimes though, I have been surprized by the accuracy that these books can have.

There are many websites available to anyone who is curious about the meaning of their dreams. Just do a quick google search and you'll find anything you want to know about dream interpretation, dream psychology, dream analysis, and even Lucid Dreaming. The answers you get on here are only going to be someone's best guess as to what the dream means to them. The meaning it has for you may, or may not, be totally different.

Whatever you do, ignore Serenity's advice. If she has a degree in anything it is probably printed off the internet somewhere. She sounds like a fraud. The only degree she could possibly have is a degree in Tom-Foolery.
How does she know how YOUR brain is processing information. Is she a mind-reader? Listen to the advice of a fool like her, and woe and tribulation is surely going to be in your future.

Do some research. Read. Learn for yourself.

Answer 3

Speaking with someone on the telephone is a dream symbol. There are more ways of having contact with someone. You can be with someone (you can hear, see and touch him), you can be on a chat or write an email or letter to him (you cannot hear, see or touch him, but you can make yourself understandable through written language). Compare these things with contact on the phone: On the phone you cannot see the other person, (or feel) or touch him. You can only "hear" his voice.

I feel that being on the phone with someone could be a symbol for having contact with someone 'in your mind'. As if you were hearing his voice in your mind. It does not mean that you hear his real voice, the voice is only a symbol for a way of having contact. Everyone has his of her own ways to have a contact (feeling, thought) with intimate friends inside his head, I think.

In such a 'contact', you were feeling hurt, the dream says. You did not get this feeling about him while he was with you, it came when you were (in a way of speaking) only 'hearing his voice' inside yourself. It feels to me, that this almost looks like you had a sort of intuïtion about him. That this hurted you very much, and that since then your mind does not trust him anymore.

I feel that it is not the dream that is the cause for this change inside you, the dream is only the messenger that brings this change to your attention - the one that explains to you, what is happening between the two of you. Somehow there must be a (good) reason, that your feelings cannot trust him anymore. Maybe you cannot find any good reason by now, but it might reveal itself to you later, you never know. Maybe he has been doing something or feeling something about you, that would have hurt you very much, when you would have noticed this.

This dream tells you that this is happening, without telling you what it is, that is exactly happening. I see it as a sort of a warning to you, so that you can be careful in your thoughts and feelings towards him. The cause must be with him, I guess, and the dream helps you to save your own feelings.

If you have feelings after a dream, that have to do with the dream and that stay some time in you, these feelings are a part of the dream. I call them 'after dream feelings'. You can see the dream as the theory, and the after dream feelings as practice. These feelings then show you, how the things the dream talks about, feel in your real life. So that you can somehow recognise what the dream is about.

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One thing is, to save your relation, and another thing is, to save yourself first. I personally that think you 'd better save yourself first, because this is not only the dream, it's also your own real life-feelings that tell you you cannot trust him anymore.

peter.

Answer 4

Don't read anything into it. It might have been some residual
pain or fear. You probably just needed a good cry. Don't punish your boyfriend for what you dreamt. That's irrational.

Isn't it weird when you have a dream in which you are crying, but awaken only to find out that you really are crying. Or when you are laughing hysterically in your dream and wake out of it laughing hysterically. It's intense. But- you still can't control your dreams.

Get over it. Tell him about it, if you want. But don't blame him or
accuse him of something he didn't do. It was just a dream.

Answer 5

Well, Dreaming of a friend can mean that you are think of him.

Crying = regret, guilty feeling.

In your case, your dream is mostly your feeling. You project your untrusted feeling to him. As a matter of fact, examine yourself whether it is really him or just you. Do not fully listen to your dream. Your dream may just mean you do not TRUST yourself rather than him. Crying in the dream shows your feeling. You projected it so real because you have lost the trust somewhere. It may not him. I would speculate just because my dream gave me that bad feeling. You should talk to him directly. Your intuition may be right. However, remember dream is your subconscious mind. It is your dream, it is about how you feel, not other people.

Answer 6

Try talking to him. Your dream seems to point that your connection with him is breaking down. The worst thing a relationship can have is distance and misunderstanding, so sit down and tell him about how you feel and work things out together, or at least try and reach a common ground of understanding.

Answer 7

Sorry that you've been going through so much. That is probably the reason for the crying, however - everything just came out at once. Hope you will be feeling better really soon.

Answer 8

Your subconcous (sic) is telling you something that you may have missed... It may be best to take some time if you feel that strongly