My husband had an affair 2 yrs ago. I stayed to try to make work. Found out he is spending time with another woman and didn't tell me. He says they are just friends and it is none of my business. Affair?
2006-07-28 07:51:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Assuming its not his sister, its not a good sign. Its not really cheating unless they are swapping fluids, true. However- what is he spending your time with another woman for? Even if they are not having sexual contact he is still outside the relationship for whatever. You can rightfully insist that he is spending your time with her especially if it " just friends". If you are getting enough companionship from him as is ,oh well. If not he's wasting your opportunity. The fact that you did not know about this is red flags. He's not being honest with you. That's the greatest transgression.
2006-07-28 08:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
even if they are not having an affair -it is his responsibility to be positively transparent in all his dealings seeing he did have an affair only 2 years ago.
this means it is his responsibility to tell you about female friends and where he is spending any extra time.
if he is not being up front it doesnt necessarily mean he is cheating....... but he is being deceitful
this is not acceptable
you need to set some really clear boundaries
best of luck
2006-07-28 15:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
search the internet for "signs he's cheating"
Then remember the way it was two years ago.
Any of the same things going on?
The fact that he is spending time with another woman and NOT telling you dosn't shine a favorable light on this activity. You need to find out why he's spending time with her.
2006-07-28 15:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by Midnight_Rider 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am sorry to tell you that he is. Start checking cell phone records, email, whatever you need to do to get proof, and then take them to a good divorce lawyer. Cheaters don't quit. They just go into periodic remission. Kind of like I hear herpes is.
2006-07-28 15:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by babyred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u took him back , and knew he cheated on u , and now he is doing the same thing , so u made your bed and lay in it , because once a cheater always a cheater , i know my husband cheat on me but no i didn't take him back because he will think that it is ok to continue doing it , u need to leave him so he will learn his lesson .
2006-07-28 15:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
catch b 4 late
2006-07-28 15:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by snow l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably but you took him back after his first one so you made your own bed if you don't lke it.
2006-07-28 14:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by ready4it45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion yes.
2006-07-28 14:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does it secretly........ its cheating...... even if its not sex.
2006-07-28 15:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by Alexander Shannon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋