plz help i don't know what to do and need advice?

Question

i left my man and people say i should'nt have anything to do w/ him any more due 2 our 3 mnth old. he has been very abusive towardsour son and thats why i'm leaving him. and i don't know what to do

Answer 1

If there is recorded instances of him being abusive Then drop a dime . Girl your child is more important God gave you this child to bring up nurture the way your suppose to not abuse.
If there is no reports I have one Question WHY NOT????
Then there is questions you need to answer
Do you really love your child
Do you really want the best for your child
Is your child in Church learning morals ?
God's way

Bless You
Pastor

Answer 2

First off when a man is abusive towards a baby that's your clue to get out. My ex was abusive towards our child. He was a bit older but not much. Now that he's 8 he STILL is in therapy. I know you want more than that for your son. I know you do. I would recommend getting out ASAP I know it's hard. I really do. I've been there. My ex had 15 felonies against him so you can see it was bad for us. They didn't even charge for what he did to the baby. Call your local crisis line and ask them for help. You don't have to make the decision to leave today, but it's good to be ready. Also have any important papers ect that you will need in a bag so that if you have to you can grab it and leave. Set aside some money if you can. Good luck to you! I'll be thinking of you.

Answer 3

what is it that u don't know what to do? The guy is a child abuser, hello!!!!! Have you called the authorities on him? Gotten a restraining order? Child support order?
Geez, wake up, your a mother now, if you don't want to protect the kid give it to someone who will and go ruin your life with this loser.
If you are serious about leaving him and u don't call authorities etc, there will be no record of him doing these things and he'll have every right to take the baby away from you too, so you have to protect that baby now!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

1. Get a strong custody order specifying that IF he gets visitation, that it is supervised visitation - if he's abusive, he'll continue to be so.

2. Get a restraining order.

3. Get child and/or spousal support.

4. Find a way to be otherwise self-sufficient.

5. Do NOT have social contact with him. He doesn't need to be involved in your life; it sounds like you have a really good support network - rely on them to help you through the tough times! Do NOT give in to him, no matter what he promises or says or threatens!

(good for you for getting out of there! Protecting your kid is your NUMBER ONE priority!!!)

Answer 5

You need not to have anything to do with him anymore for your 3 month old son.

There is NO POSSIBLE EXCUSE for abusive behavior towards an infant!

Your only possible future together would be after he has gone to therapy to resolve his angry/violence problems and lived for a long time with his anger under control. Then, and only then, is it possible to be with him.

Understand this: If you let him back in, you will enable his abusiveness and you are created a miserable future for your baby!

Answer 6

You did the right thing. Your job as a mother is to love and protect. Don't look at it as if you lost something because of it because you didn't loose anything. A man that would abuse his own child would surely abuse you.

Answer 7

I would live and let live, if he wants to see his kid, set up a supervised visitation through the court system. Other than that I wouldn't hang out with him, sometimes it is hard to leave someone you love, but I think that you would be better off without that kind of thing around you or your child.

Answer 8

if he's been abusive toward a 3 month old then you need to call the cops and have them handle it from there. if they won't do anything then call me I'll take care of the 'problem'.

as far as visitation goes, no way! but try to get child support

Answer 9

If he was abusive towards your son you shouldn't have anything to do with him. Your son only has you to protect him. Be strong for your baby and let this man go.

Answer 10

Clarify the question.. you don't know what to do about what? Is the question "Should I stay anyway." or "Where should I go?"?? If you want to stay maybe you should consider giving your child up for adoption. I mean, you wouldn't want to have him in an environment where he would be hurt, would you?? If you stay, you're going to lose the baby anyway & you'll probably go to jail for child endangerment too.
If you're not sure where to go ... there are agencies out there to help you. Contact your local police dept.