My wife gives me the feeling that nothing in the world I do that should take more than a few minutes.?

Question

I am annoyed. My wife gives me the feeling that nothing in the world I do that should take more than a few minutes. If it is some project she wants done she is always"are you done yet," "why are you taking so long," You are so slow'," etc. If its something I want to do that takes more than 5 minutes I am either obsessed, I want to get away from her, or I am trying to hide from responsiblities. If I take too long on an errand beacause of traffic, long lines or some other thing beyond my control I am told I must be up to something else cuz I took so long. I can't even sit and enjoy taking a crap for more than 5 minutes without getting grief. It sucks. Is there another way to deal with it besides tuning her out?

Answer 1

dump her ***

Answer 2

It's a control thing. My ex husband did that to me. I am swift on my job, and if I were getting HIS groceries (from numerous stores so he could have what he wanted), he'd ask why it took me so long. I became paranoid and rushed and really stressed out. She needs some counseling (and I know that is hard to get someone to do when they don't see a problem but...)...try using the excuse "I'm too slow at things for you. Let's go to counseling and see if I can be better"...and then speak to the counselor before you get there and tell him/her what you've said here. They will see how abnormal and wrong it is, and they'll tactfully work their way around it. It's not fair to you. And if you have kids (or if you ever do), this is a learned trait that your wife has; they will learn it from her, she will rush them, and they will grow up with a problem. Try addressing it from this perspective now. Good luck!

Answer 3

Dude, stand up for yourself! If your wife talks down to you, straighten her out. Who's the man in this relationship?

You don't need to be jerk - tell her that you care about her time. But if she keeps nagging you, look her square in the eye and tell her the STOP. You're a grown man and no woman has any business talking to you like that.

It's difficult to earn respect back from a woman who obviously has no for you, but it can be done. Don't hesitate to stand up for yourself - take no crap!

Answer 4

it doesn't suck because if it did, someone would feel good.

i had a skinny uncle with an overweight wife. that poor guy took much verbal and physical abuse. if his hearing aids came out for any reason, she would elbow him and yell to "get those back in your head!"

Answer 5

I am, by nature, a smartass. So please forgive this in advance.

if you do EVERYTHING too slow, definately add speeding with her in the car, eating like someone in basic training, and loosing your stamina between the sheets to your to do list.

Answer 6

just tell her to give u some room to breathe for god sake ,

Answer 7

They are all like that...learn to live with it....I have..lol