guys i tried everyhing and my husbant.....?

Question

is still acting the same....we had marital problems after i cought him talking to his ex wich he claims they are just friends and they didn't talk for a year but when i taxt her she said she didn't see the ring on his hand but she knows about our son....then i found napkin in his pocket of her home phone# and he says he doesn't remember that he did that...i'm so mad..he denies everthing ofcourse...but i have truble beleiveinghim...anywas i was ready to forget and let go but now 3 weeks later he is barly tuching me...i asked him his simple answer was i love you....that's it...i tried to be sexy basically throwing myself on him and nothing....he is works and comes home spends time with us ,we have nice dinners wach tv do stuff tugether but we don't feel connected....what is going on??he doesn't want to conversate,makeing me look like a needy person wich i'm not.we had a good relationship up till this point...what to do guys?/thanks

Answer 1

u need to focus on what you need and want in this relationship. Set Boundaries. u need to communicate that u are not happy, not accusing him, but u are not happy w/ what is going on right now. the problem is that there is something bothering you; regardless of if he is cheating, or u think he's cheating, he needs to address the fact that you are not satisfied w/ the relationship. if he really loves u, he will communicate what he needs as well. if u become distant, someone is not working, and a relationship takes two. be calm, but be firm; u deserve to be happy too. perhaps he feels u are accusing him, and that u don't trust him; that could cause much friction. i'm not saying trust him no matter what evidence, but to communicate to him that there are things in which he is acting weird, and situations are not ideal, and he needs to do more in order to make u feel safe and secure. he hasn't been taking care of you, and that's why u feel sad. a relationship is mental, emotional, as well as physical; trying to seduce him in bed is not going to fix it. ask him what is going on, care about what he needs as well, work together. if one of u gives up, there's no point. do all u can, go to therapy, and if all that doesn't work, then think about what u need to do in the future (separation, etc). but make that the last option; let him know u are willing to work still regardless of the past. hopefully he will meet u halfway.

Answer 2

I would be extremely upset too. When two people get married, there is no more talking to the EX's. That is so disrespectful. I would feel like he has no respect for me and our life together. What you should do is tell him that you will not tolerate this entire situation. Stand up for yourself, because if you don't it will continue. And if it does continue then he is not the man that you once knew. Therefore, the vows you took are pretty much lies. I realize that this is hard to swallow but it is the truth. I feel for you. A family is suppose to be a FAMILY, not a second choice. Try to keep your head high and tell him that he needs to give you the respect and love that you deserve or you will be going somewhere else to get it! Obviously, he might be. Good luck.

Answer 3

What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Don't appear to be desperate or act like you need him. Most men look to have a strong woman that's a challenge sometimes even after marriage. Just be strong in your convictions about the ex. Let him know your not dumb and your not going to play stupid either and that you don't expect him to have any contact with that woman. It's not a matter of trusting him, but trusting the situation, because he could not be honest about the number or their conversation. When a man realizes he can't run over you it SOMETIMES knocks the sense back into his head.

Answer 4

This could be one of two things...he feels like your mad at him so he is scared to get comfy with you and in turn you bringing up the issue. Or he is getting his love from somewhere else and doesn't know the way to tell you. I pray that it is not the second one..but why don't you ask him. Communication is key to a successful marriage! Good luck!

Answer 5

Unless he has a job as a magician and is making napkins and phone numbers magically appear in his pocket, he's after another woman.

Answer 6

Well, sometimes the thrill is not there anymore, and you might need to light thefire sometimes. Had same problem...ask him what is he looking for.........if it's not you then you need to move on. But sometimes couples just have a dry spell...like mine did...then it;ll come back. But if he's slepping with other chicks, f-him.

Answer 7

Don't like it at all, if he not crazy over you why bother spending any more time feeling like your fighting for his eye. there r so many guys out there that would love to give you all there attention, & love kids too. Sometimes guys change, that really hurts though when they start to stray.

Answer 8

I dunno, sounds like he might be having a thing with his ex. I seldom give this answer, but in this particular case, the way you're describing it - it really sounds like something might be going on. I don't know what you might do - obviously, he won't tell you if you ask. Perhaps, you can hire a PI if you *really* want to know the truth.

Answer 9

he is probably cheating. look at the signs. if woman throws herself at a man, no man would turn her away. especially a husband to a wife. get out, while you can.

Answer 10

If he's so mean, it's time you care for yourself. Dress nice and go out on your own, meet friends and have fun.