...if yes:
1) Under what circumstances did this third party come into the picture?
2) Did it have any negative effects on your relationship?
2006-07-28 07:27:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I find it ironic that people would respond to a question on Y!A with, "none of your business". What's THAT all about???
2006-07-28 07:44:02 · update #1
Well for starters, I am suprised you have had more answers by people who have engaged in a 3sum. There are many many out there. Obviously the subject has came up, so now you want more information.
1st off you need to now what expectations each person has and set guidelines to be followed.
2nd open communication is the key. Be honest and expect the same in return.
3rd educate yourself. Know what the lingo is, so you know what you're reading and/or typing. No two 3sums are ever the same.
4th only procede if everyone agrees. Don't let mixed feelings fume into something more if unneccassary.
To answer you question, yes I have been involved with 3sums, and 4sums with other couples. It is wonderful. We are not breaking down our relationship, but building on the sexual side. Jealousy never reared it ugly head in the 16 years I have been involved with this lifestyle. Because rules are always kept no matter what.
I think you are going to get some heated opinions on this question. Is the swinging lifestyle for everyone, my answer is no. If, however, you truly love your partner and honestly (mutually) want to explore the sexual possiblities, then you will enjoy each time it happens more than the last.
2006-07-28 08:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by brew_1978 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure that there a lot couples or committed couples that engaged in a theesome 1) This third party comes into the picture to give pleasure or to realize fantasies. 2)I didn't have any negative effects on my relationship but it's a kind of game.
2006-07-28 07:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Fernando 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your acquaintances and kin are bringing this up for solid reason. Your fiance should not be residing together with his mothers and dads while he has 2 little ones who stay with you -- particularly while he's conscious which you have yet another baby to shield too! $500 a week in take-homestead pay isn't undesirable. He would desire to circulate in with you and furnish help to with your lease and different expenditures. it will be awhile till now you 2 are financially guard (mastercard debt takes awhile to pay off....) yet a minimum of you would be in it mutually. in addition to, that's substantial on your little ones that their mothers and dads be married. advantageous, you will desire to no longer get married "for" the youngsters, yet once you like one yet another and what to get married, then you definitely would desire to do it through fact the youngsters will income. There are all styles of legal snafus that ought to be remedied in case you 2 have been married and ought to modern-day a united front at school, etc. i could get married. pass to the courthouse and get a marriage license. this is going to in all probability value you between $40-one hundred. do no longer make excuses anymore. there isn't any such ingredient as "um, money" while it incorporates the explanation why you will no longer get married and supply your little ones a united homestead extremely than have their dad residing together with his mothers and dads even however he's merely about 40 years previous.
2016-10-01 04:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by marve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
couple/couple here, felt much easier, no swap,just lady play while the guys watched, and kept to their own wives.
You have to have rules, limits to how far you will go and follow them.
As long as you follow your own set of rules that you start out with, there should be no jealously, no getting mad.
Only you both will know what you are comfortable with.
It's a great turn on for all involved. Try AFF.
2006-07-28 07:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never-- I don't believe in it. I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I don't judge other people that do it- I just don't want to know about it.
2006-07-28 07:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by celia a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i did.....
i feel like letting you know the circumstances is not your business.
and yes it did have a negative effect on my relationship.
do i recommend it ..... no
will i do it again...... hell hell no
2006-07-28 07:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by ijrg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not me I tried to talk my wife into but she won't so I guess my fantasy will never come true
2006-07-28 07:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, nvr have nvr will... they casue jealosuey, inseruity and they overrated any way!
2006-07-28 07:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no it against my religion
2006-07-28 07:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't.
2006-07-28 07:30:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋