should a woman be responsible for the house? or make sure meals are cooked?

Question

Married for two years and have no children. My husband is a better cook than I am (I think I try to make everything too healthy because I am a doctor and subconsciously think everything should be carb and fat free, probly) . Also, I work alot more than he does. However, I always feel a little guilty when he does housework. Maybe I've been brainwashed into thinking that it's my job? Is it my job?
Another thing is that it's awkard when my in laws are aware that he does alot of housework. They are nice, but old school.

btw- I was exaggerating about the healthy food.. I am just NOT as good a cook as he is, period.
also- before any of you ladies think I'm too lucky, my husband has never cleaned the toilet. As helpful and kind as he is, come on...he's still a man.

Answer 1

My father has always done house work. Everyone in the house should pitch in. You shouldn't feel guilty.

btw, a well balanced meal is better than a low carb or fat free one.

Answer 2

I am old school and think the woman should do the housework. There is nothing wrong with the husband pitching in though. Since you are a Dr. it would be completely understandable to hire a maid. That way it gets done and you don't have the guilt that your hubby had to do it.

Answer 3

Marriage is a partmership. Who cares who does the most housework?

My wife and I have been married 32 years and we always shared the housework, cooking, etc. when she was working.

And who cares what the in-laws think as long as you're both happy?

Answer 4

I don't see why, as a working woman you should also have to cook and clean. I think that even if you stayed at home, if your husband is capable then he should share int he house hold chores. Don't feel guilty about that. Cleaning is not a WOMAN"S job. And it's not your in law's business what happens in your home.

Answer 5

You both live there...you both work, then it's both your jobs to maintain the home and provide the meals....Simple...if you work more hours and it's more convenient for him to cook, that sounds like it would work well...housecleaning should be done as needed by whomever can get to it first...

There are no man chores or woman chores...if you were a housewife (or he a stay at home guy), that would be different because your job would be to maintain the home...but that's not the case...so it falls to both

Answer 6

Hey, if you both agree on who does what then why make a prob where there is none?
My hubby cooks, I do dishes. Everything else is kinda mutual, whoever gets to it first I guess. It just works.
Let him deal with his own parents, the only ones you have to impress is each other.

Answer 7

you are a lucky woman!! Thank your lucky stars you don't have to fight about him leaving his dirty socks everywhere, empty glasses everywhere, and after 16 years of marriage ask yourself "Has he ever in our married life ever ever ever once cleaned the toilet?" It is NOT your "job". You must have been raised old school too if you are feeling guilty.

Answer 8

no it isn't the woman's place to do the cooking and housework. You could give him a break sometimes and chip in help out.

Answer 9

The house is a shared resposibilty.......If you cook then he should clean up the kitchen....Its called team work........sit down, talk, come up with a plan and start to work......

Answer 10

Oh please, half and half is ideal. If one works longer hours, then the other partner should do their fair share.

Don't settle for less. If it comes down to it, unless you enjoy it and he isn't taking advantage, make him responsible for his own food, laundry and such.