Teenage pregnancies.... ugg?

Question

I would honestly like to know what makes teenagers think they have the right and authority to make a baby when they dont even pay their own bills? Just who, exactly, is supposed to take care of that baby?
I've seen once or twice where the young man follows through on his repsonsibilities but its forced most of the time and he begins to resent her and the baby for ruining his life. Or both childrens respective parents get to be the proud grandparents who have to shell out their money for everything for a baby that technically isnt theirs. Its not fair to anyone involved. The girl & boy because she misses out on fun with friends. The baby will probably be parentless or miss at least one parent. Its asking too much of the teenagers parents, they've done their time with kids let them relax for a while and enjoy eachother in their former years.
Why cant they be more considerate and wait, for everyones sake? If you truly loved babies so much dont you want to give them all you can...

Rhetorical Question - What do the girls do after reality sets in and they realize, "Oh, $hit! What have I done? This isnt a doll and I have to grow up now?" When does that truly set in for them? Is it truly sobering?

Brea12489, I dont have children. So the response to your statement would be no. I just get tired of seeing teenagers with babies and year after year the numbers seem to increase.

This affects us all regardless of how the child is supported. Kudos to those of you who took care of your responsibilities, but didnt you find the child to be slightly stilting in your growth? I'm not trying to intimate that you dont love your baby with all your heart but wasnt it hard?

This question was more for parents of pre-teens and teens who have done this or the teens themselves to make them think of the consequences.

I do know that having children is hard which is why I at the age I am dont have any.

This question was more pre-emptive than anything else. Yes, we do all make mistakes but if a girl or boy reading this question decides to actually think of cause and effect after reading it, dont you think its better that it was asked?

It wasnt my intention to condemn anyone or make anyone feel bad for their actions, if that's what you read in this question then I apologize.

Answer 1

Unfortunately society has somewhat deemed it OK. Although there is so much information and birth control available, for free I might add, society has taken control of our youth and led them to believe it's OK and good to be a single parent. It's a do as I say, not as I do world.

Answer 2

Okay, I understand your anger. I was a teen parent at age 16. I didn't do it on purpose. I was on birth control and we used prtection. Both failed and I didn't get an abortion cuz 2 wrongs don't make a right. About 90% of all pregnancies are unplaned. 3 Years later I'm on my own two feet, finished college, and I just had another baby 5 weeks ago. You should thank God for the grandparents there to assist. They prevent all these mothers from being on welfare absorbing all the gov't money. This is something that will never change unfortunatly and even i get discusted to see it happen because i know where HE is. Get mad at the guys. I'm proud of the girls who admit that they screwed up and take care of their responsibilities and not run away from it. Every baby is a blessing no matter what. I was also in a school with other teen mothers like myself, and believe me, no one did it deliberatly and most contiplated abortions.

Answer 3

sounds to me you have some type of anger against pent up about this issue ..why? I was a teenage mother 2x my children are currently 15,13 they are great children no behavorial problems yes i am single raising them , yes times were tough at time just like anything else in life you get over and passed it . i have asked myself what have i done only becasue i thought i wasn't doing enough for my children. i believe things happen for a reason. now its not fair if the teenparents are not responsible but i think that depends on the up bringing they had before the baby came in the picture..I have always been the mother to my boys no one else i have needed help I wont deny that but i was the mother ..i think things are case by case not all lump together ..i would not reccomend teens's to run out an make babies. its not easy although having a baby is not easy when your grown the man can still leave an you may not know what to do then ..individual thing

Answer 4

I don't think most of them want a baby it just happens. Maybe you should calm down and just worry about yourself, not others. And those proud grandparents that shell out, don't have to if they don't want to. They can tell them to get a job and their own place. Most choose to do it, and if they don't and they still do obviously the want to somewhere in them. Or they wouldn't do it. It all comes down to the fact that they love their child and even though they got pregnant or got someone pregnant they are willing to support their child.

If it is not happening to you, then why do you care so much. The baby isn't your responsiblity. And consider you say you have no kids, there is the end of the conversation. You have no kids and don't understand anything that comes along with it. Or even though the kids is not the grandparents, (even if it was a married couple who had it) they still shell out their own money buying gifts and special treats for they grandchildren. So zip your lips and don't talk about something you know nothing about. You are wrongfully judging.

Answer 5

Well i guess in most cases its total just being that a teen irresponsible and thought less I know i was as a teen. Most of them think to that mommy and daddy will take care of it and some do. But in some cases you do have to give it up to those who do it on their own and take the responsibility for ti I give them props don't agree that its right to have a baby as a teen but if you are doing right and not depending on someone else to raise it then good job for you but most just think its just an easy trip.

Answer 6

That's pretty stereotypical. I know about 5x as many moms who get jobs, and take responsibility for their actions as I do kids who lean on their parents for everything for their child.

I'm a teen mom. Sorta. I'm 19, with a almost 5 month old. I was married to his dad for 1.5 years before we got pregnant.(We got married right after I turned 17) We weren't irresponsible and just screwing around. His daddy has a wonderful job, which in conjunction with living in an area with a low cost of living, allows me to be a stay at home mom and spend as much time as possible with our son.

We're currently in the process of buying our first home. So, not everyone just has unprotected sex and gets knocked up for the hell of it.

Answer 7

I had my first child when i was 16 years old, I went and got a job, still attended school, had no help from the father until my son was 2 years old. My parents helped me here and there, but I figured that having my son was my responsibility, so I did everything i could to support my kids on my own.

Answer 8

I am tired of people dissing us like we are peices of **** just because we messed up in life and i am proud that i have a son. Just so you know my and my fiance support the baby. So its no all the time that he is with grandma and grandpa so i think you need to just lighting up and give people credit because they are actually trying to make it in the world with a baby and if you were a parent i would tell you to grow up and help your daughter because she needs you right now and if you are not a parent you have no business telling other teens how to live there life.

Answer 9

Honestly... I would like to know (you know since you seem to know everything) how you can say teens dont take care of their kids? I am 17 yrs. old, and Im getting ready to give birth to a babygirl! I live with my fiance...who's in the navy, and i worked full-time. We both have money saved for our daughter & a place for her & everything she is going to need! I graduated school with honors and im attending college online! So i would suggest you think about what your saying. Maybe PEOPLE you know abandon their kids and dont have a husband to help. But my little family is doing just fine & we couldnt be any happier....

Answer 10

Uh you, your daughter got knocked up didn't she?

Seriously, I don't know. Most of the kids I know who want babies want to feel needed. The feeling that this little life is going to revolve around you and love you no matter what is awesome.
Of course they usually dont think about diaper costs, crying in the middle of the night, doctor bills, ect.....

Answer 11

But you know what it isn't me you should listen to. For I do not have the experience. Listen the people who have been there. They can tell you everything and you should not blame everyone for just one person's mistakes. Society has never deemed it okay society's just never done any thing about it.