What age is the oldest to have a baby!?

Question

I am only 24 with a fiance. Thinking about having kids but we are both selfish. Do you think we could have a fun and loving life without children?

Answer 1

You are definitely not ready for children. Stay on birth control.
Sometime down the road, you will know when you are
mature enough and ready for children. You may never want
to have children. And that's okay, too. People who don't want
children or who can't handle them shouldn't have kids!

You have plenty of time to change your mind. I had my first
at 31 and my last at 37. Both fabulous kids and growing up
way too quickly! I cannot imagine NEVER having kids. No way.

It wasn't until I had kids that I realized that I could love someone
that much. I had heard that you'd step out in front of a moving train to save your child, and I thought "Oh, sure- ". Until I had
kids and it is absolutely true- I would sacrifice my life if it would save my child without blinking an eye. Hopefully, I won't ever
have to test that theory.

Have fun, enjoy, be selfish while you can. Somewhere in your
30's you will realize that there's more to life than that. You will,
then, yearn for a child.

Answer 2

It is very possible for a couple to live their lives without children. There is much involved in that decision process however. First, we marry in hopes that we will be with that one person for the rest of our lives. Second, sometimes when we are finally 'ready', we might find that a) the female may or may not be able to conceive. There is nothing wrong with making that commitment not to have children. It's ok to be selfish -and it's really not being selfish when you look the whole picture. If you both know you don't want children, then you are making the right decision not to bring a child into the world. It's a personal decision between the two of you....only. Personally, I wanted (4), but found that I was unable to conceive in the early years. I was 33 before that lucky hit. (smile) I was with a man I loved for three years and we were resigned that no children would be born to us as a couple. Pleasantly, surprised and very, very happy - we have Sky. She is the last of 'his' four and my 'one'. Even though we are no longer together, she has matured into a very happy, well rounded, loving and caring young woman.

Answer 3

If you think you and your fiance are selfish, then why would you even think of having children at this point. Children are a major responsiblity, once you have a child your life is no longer your own for at least the next 18 yrs. Lets talk money, it is so expensive to raise a child, there needs are great, especially as they grow older. I had my first at 21 and my last at 42, it has been a tough road, I love all my children, but it has been hard raising them specially as a single mother. I would encourage you to have children only when you are sure you are ready (Hopefully after marriage), they are a joy to have, but like I mentioned before a big big responsibility.

Answer 4

When my husband and I got married, I was 22 and he was 23, we did not want any kids, we said that we had seen other couples struggle with kids and we just didn't want to go through that, we wanted to have the best time of our lives just him and I. It did work but your parent clocks will kick, it happened to us, actually mine kicked before his but at the end after 6.5 happy years, we decided that it was time to bring a little one that looked like us, so we decided to have a baby. You can have the best time of your life if you don't have any kids and if you have a healthy marriage, and it is very smart and wise to wait before you have a baby, but it is a natural thing that happens to the human body, it tells you at a certain point that you need to procreate. When a woman is born she is born with all the eggs that she will release through her whole life so your eggs are as old as you are and they are as healthy as you are. If you take care of yourself and live a healthy life, you can be 45yo and have a healthy baby! however you have to consider that the age can be important because at 45 you might be tired and raising a child can be harder and you won't be too long to enjoy it so I would say if you wait until you are 35 it would be a great age. We are 29yo right now and I feel like I am ready for a baby, most importantly mature enough to have a baby. Good luck and I hope you make a good choice.

Answer 5

Of course you can have a life without kids but why would you want to miss out on the greatest joy there is? Why not live your life for the next ten years then have a baby. 34 isn't too old. Hope not cuz that's how old I am and I just had a boy and am trying for a girl now. Enjoy yourselves for a few years and then rethink your decision. Kids are great they bring so much joy and laughter to your life it's amazing.

Answer 6

someone in England (i believe) recently gave birth to a child at the age of 62.. SIXTY TWO!

it's refreshing to see that you can recognize that you and your fiance' have self serving goals. so many people think a baby will change that and THEN find out that a baby is distroying their relationship because they REALLY still wanted to be free spirits. have fun and enjoy your youth as long as you can. once you are a parent EVERYTHING changes (responsibility does that to people!) having a child does bring SOME people closer together and others, it just rips them apart. HAVE A GOOD YOUTH and have children when you truly feel like settling down!