Do you think people who hurt others do it because they too are hurting?

Question

why do people hurt each other?

Answer 1

i don't know but when i read i question like this then i think about the animals they hurt not only each other i mean we are living things just like the animals

Answer 2

I think people act out of need first and want second. Therefore most people who hurt others, I think, do it because they have a need that supercedes their concern for the other person's feelings/needs/safety. Sometimes people hurt other people because they feel they've been wronged and need to retaliate, which I would classify as a want. Among things I would classify as needs are self-preservation and self value.
Wherever a person assigns value in their life, that's what they will hurt another person for. If they think money is what makes them valuable, they will step on people left and right to achieve that. If they think that religion is it, they'll hurt someone for that. If they think being seen as powerful is the answer, they'll hurt someone for that.
The other side of that is self-preservation. If someone is hurting deeply or very angry inside, they may hurt another because there's so much inside, they have to get it out somehow, and that's how it comes out. If something they see as what life is about is threatened, again, they will react to preserve that.
The key to all of this, of course, is that hurting is not the right way. This may seem juvenile in its simplicity, but the truth is anger or hurt or esteemed value to material or physical things is never an excuse to hurt someone else. If someone is angry or hurting inside, they can see a counselor, and I would recommend it. If someone is lashing out because some sort of self esteem issue based on their value system, again, help is there. They will give them tools to release anger or frustration, and can help to rebuild their value system, or at least gain new perspective on those values. The end result of that is that everyone gets hurt less (note- I didn't say never, because people can always get their feelings hurt with no ill intentions at all) and life becomes a little brighter- and that's what we want, right?

Answer 3

It has been proven over and over that hurting people hurt others. Just listen to the couple argue. One strikes a cord in the other about something they did, and the other often retaliates to get back at the other person for hurting them with their words. You see it in criminals who came from a 'bad' upbringing, they are hurting people inside and they lash out at others, due to their pain. If somebody walks around all the time with anger issues they are sarcastic, harsh and rash with others, even though those they are lashing out at are not the original people who made them angry. It is self-centered. It could change if people really tried. But when an individual is self-centered, all they do is see them selves as a victim, and decide to hurt other people to make themselves feel better about what happened to them. They never see their actions as wrong, but they have a diary in their mind of ebvery wrong thing that was ever done to them. Yes, I believe hurting people hurt people. If we taught children more effective ways of dealing with their emotions, it may not happen so much in the future.

Answer 4

Yeah, a lot of the time. I hurt others without meaning to because I am hurting, and I know that, and I feel bad for it, but it still happens.

Answer 5

Possibly they are hurting...are have low self esteem or self confidence that the power to initiate the reaction of hurt from someone else causes them to feel better about themselves or strong...

They are to be felt sorry for imo...anyone who gets pleasure or satisfaction from hurting another person is a sad individual...

Answer 6

Not necessarily. They may not be feeling that they are hurting others. Most of the times it is because of the behavioural pattern and the mind-sets of humans to react in such a way. It could be because of their own problems.

Answer 7

People can only hurt you if you allow them to. U control your feelings- if someone hurts you its cause u let them. No one should be able to make anyone feel a certain way...Although that is how this world works..unfortunately.

Answer 8

I think it's because they're hurting they want to make someone else feel bad so that they can feel better. It's weird. We only hurt the ones we love....

Answer 9

If you are in psycology you better start studing dear!! JK Yes they are usually hurting and it helps aleviate thier pain by inflicting pain upon someone else! If you read any bools on murderers or watch any documentaries on psycos , that is what usually starts it a child is molested or abused in some form or fashion...It's a sad cycle but unfortunately it happens....

Answer 10

This is a complex and thought provoking question that can not be explained with one cure all answer. All people hurt others from time to time..sometimes intentional....others accidental. It comes down to human nature, a persons surroundings, their morals and values and what they were taught to believe. A cruel comment is sometimes uttered because that person is feeling poorly about themselves. By putting someone else down they feel they gain an advantage. It makes them feel as though they are a better person. Example....Darla is a beautiful woman. She is tall, thin, tan....long hair, beautiful eyes. Nobody else knows but in order to maintian that beauty she induces vomiting after meals and maxes out her credit cards. Darla met Ashley through a mutual friend. Ashely is shorter than Darla and on the heavy side as far as weight goes. Although she is always neat and clean her clothes are out of date because she shops second hand. Darla makes rude comments to Ashley concerning her size and fashion style. This makes her feel better about herself. It justifies the things she has to do to maintian he appearance even though she secretly feels she is ugly inside because of them. Ashely keeps a clean home. She's a bit of a neat freak. "A place for everything and evetything in it's place" It's something she's very proud of but at the same time ashamed because she knows it comes at the expense of her family. Ashley is so busy scrubbing and waxing that she doesn't spend any time with her children or let them be the natural, messy little creatures children were meant to be. He sister Sarah doesn't worry much about those things. Her house is a mess from the front door to the back. Her dirty dishes from dinner sit in the sink overnight....sometimes for two days. Her laundry room has mountains of clothes that need washing. But Sarah tells herself she doesn't mind because for her spending time with her children is more important. Ashley makes rude comments to her sister about the condition of her home because that makes her feel justified for neglecting her family in order to have a spotless abode even though she secretly envies the quality time sarah has to spend with her kids. Sarah's best friend Amy has chosen not to have children. She devotes her time to work and charity. Amy feels this is more important for her than having a family of her own but still sits up some nights crying over what she doesn't have. From time to time Sarah makes smart remarks to Amy over her choice of lifestyle. This makes her feel better about her own choice not to explore that dfferent path. Sarah claims she doesn't want it but in the same breath feels worthless. Do you see what I mean? It's one big chain reaction. Some of these women just wanted to be cruel, others thought they were being helpfull and didn't realize their comments hurt so badly. The true secret of life which can be applied here and in most every other situation? Life is.....whatever it needs to be for you. Live and let live. Take care and I hope you have an amazing day!