I love her more then anything. Can't get her off my mind. When she's PMS ing, She hates Men and finds the littlest things I do so terribly wrong. At that time I turn into just another man. When the PMS has passed. She is loving, and caring, talks of marriage. I can't tell her this when the period comes. If I do, she says there's nothing wrong with her, its me, and all other men. We are seperated a week of every 9 months we have been together. I need some encouragement. She is well worth a fight, but I don't know how much I can take of the pms time. She actually hates me then.
2006-07-28 06:48:07 · 9 answers · asked by Terry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would not recommend the pill! It is FAKE estrogen derived from pregnant mare's urine, and it's too powerful. She is already having a surge of her own estrogen, and that is what is causing the irritability. I'm not a natural health freak at all, but a really good naturopath can probably find an oil or mineral that will help (you should never come out of an ND's office with hundreds of dollars in vitamins and crap...only what you need which may be one or two items). Have her lay off all caffeine (slowly if she is a coffee drinker because the withdrawal can cause headaches), and beef up on vitamin E, and the omega 3-6-9 oils and stay away from sugar (even potatoes have 17 tsps. of sugar in them; yams are better and yams have some good hormones in them). Rosemary oil is supposed to help with sore breasts (that can make ya bitchy, boy!), and her diet should include good lean proteins. I have a HORRID time with this, and it started in my late 30's (I'm almost 41 now). I get so sore I can hardly breathe, and I feel like my head is going to pop off and I want to peel my skin off. If she feels like that, she won't even like herself, nevermind anyone else. I'd welcome the help if I were her. The pill and prozac are not the answer (prozac can make her lose her libido altogether, which will not make either of you happy...it pretty much helped to destroy my marriage). Her case sounds serious enough to see a health professional; whatever kind you choose, because she is also suffering. I'm not sure why she doesn't see, or if she doesn't, but there are a lot of things out there to help ease this, and I didn't believe it before either, but it's very real, and very frustrating. If I'm going to wig out on my partner (from 3000 miles away-yay), it's going to be when I have that estrogen surge, and I'm already a high-strung person. When she is in the calm state, talk to her and tell her how it must feel awful to feel upset and out of sorts like that, and that there are things that can be done to ease that, and see if she's receptive. If she's not, she's in denial. No one HAS to go through it that badly every single month. Some will be worse than others, but many can be ok. Good luck!
2006-07-28 07:13:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
When she is not PMSing, gently suggest that she should see a doctor.
I used to have a friend who was the sweetest person normally. But when she was PMSing, you could not pay me enough money to hang around her. I once made the mistake of suggesting that she see her doctor about her terrible b*tchiness while she was PMSing. We are no longer friends.
She used to try to self-medicate during that period by smoking a lot of dope. That would usually work for her. If she couldn't find any or enough, even her cats & dog wanted to move out!
Hopefully your girl friend will listen to you and see if the doctor can help. I hope so.
Good luck
2006-07-28 07:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by carl l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't actually hate you. She is just very irritable and cranky at the time. There is no excuse for bad behavior, no matter if it's that time or not. I suggest you speak to her about this problem when she isn't PMS'ing. Try to get her to take something to at least take the edge of the moodiness off. There are over the counter remedies that work well. We depend on them in my home. The reason I say "we" is that when it's that time for me.. I tend to take off the head of the nearest convienent person that crosses my path unless I am taking something for it. Good Luck!
2006-07-28 06:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to put up with this every month for the rest of your life?
Do you want your children to have to hear how terrible and rotten they are from their mother once a month for the rest of their lives?
She has no self-control and she uses her PMS as a time to say whatever in the hell she feels likes saying and get away with it. Do yourself a favor and move on.
2006-07-28 06:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife has always had bad PMS. Lately, she has learned how to controle it. She has been on the pill since she was 15. Get your wife on the pill, find some OTC drug, and maybe seek counseling. True love is worth it.
2006-07-28 07:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way during pms.i hate it. i take fenugreek seed. There are alot of herbs for females that help. It supposedly regulates hormones w/plant phytoestrogen.
2006-07-28 06:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hilarious! Get her some prozac to take on a regular basis so when this crap hits she'll be ok lol
2006-07-28 06:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by teresadick30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she should go on the pill or depo provera. the depo usually stops periods and then there is no pms. talk to her when she is not p.m.s.ing.
2006-07-28 06:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is faking her PMS... she has fallen for some other guy or a woman.... Time to move on
2006-07-28 15:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by civilreddy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋