I love her more then anything. Can't get her off my mind. When she's PMS ing, She hates Men and finds the littlest things I do so terribly wrong. At that time I turn into just another man. When the PMS has passed. She is loving, and caring, talks of marriage. I can't tell her this when the period comes. If I do, she says there's nothing wrong with her, its me, and all other men. We are seperated a week of every 9 months we have been together. I need some encouragement. She is well worth a fight, but I don't know how much I can take of the pms time. She actually hates me then.
2006-07-28 06:46:04 · 16 answers · asked by Terry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Experience is talking here - Get her to a good doctor. There are medications that make PMS much easier to deal with. My children and husband would hide when I turned into one of those "once a month witches." I could not control anything that I said or did. I was finally able to find an OB-GYN who listened and prescribed a hormone supplement. It made all the difference in the world! I am myself again! It is wonderful!
2006-07-28 06:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry for you, man! You sound like a really understanding, caring guy. During one of the loving, caring episodes, tell her how much you love her and want to be with every week of every month, but that her PMS-induced behaviour is making you miserable. If she didn't behave differently, what other reason is there for you to be apart for 1 week every month? It isn't you who changes. Explain that she seems to hate all men, including you, at these times, but she doesn't seem to realise it. Tell her that her doctor can easily prescribe something to stop these mood swings. If she prefers, the local Holland & Barratt can advise about herbal remedies. If she really loves you & talks about marriage, surely she would consider anything - after all, I'm sure she doesn't like it any more than you do! I speak from experience - it took me a long time to admit it as well! I only admitted it when my other half actually taped me saying horrible things to him, and said that if I really felt that way, maybe we should part company. That made me realise what I stood to lose, & I took herbal medication which quickly made us both feel a lot better. Show her this reply if you think it will help; maybe she will see just how desperate you are to help her and appreciate what a good guy she's got. I hope you can work things out. Good Luck & Good Love to you both!
2006-07-28 08:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by devildriver53 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear now I know how my poor husband felt when he put up with my whinging through PMT thingy, when she is ok and I mean do wait till she is over her PMT you could suggest this to her, 7 to 10 days before her period starts eat 2 ryvitas or rice cakes 3 times a day, for at least 3 days, I swear it really helps with the PMT, your obviously very intelligent and don't really need to be told this but PMT or PMS as they like to call it these days is not something women pretend to have, it just happens and god it is horrible, I used to say I had the PMT and symptoms but my poor husband was the one who suffered with it, no she really doesn't hate you she just says that because she hates what her body is doing to her and unfortunately you poor men have to put up with it, have you read books or leaflets about it from the doctors or library, they do help you to understand it a bit more, can you talk to her about going to the doctors herself and maybe getting some help with her PMT, also do this when she hasn't got the PMT or she might rip your head off otherwise, she might be really hurt and upset that you have asked this question without her knowing and just imagine what that makes her feel like, though I understand that you are going through it too even if she doesn't like to admit how it affects you, sit her down and talk to her and don't shout either, tell her how you feel about it and say you really want to help her and pushing you out isn't helping your cause, if you love her the way you say you do then you have to get her to see how hard it is for you too and if she wants to spend the rest of her life with you then isn't it fair you both find help for the PMT before it destroys what could be a perfect life, good luck and I hope you get things sorted out real soon.
2006-07-28 10:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember "it's not you", it's the hormones talking. I have days when I get really messed up about something then the following day or so I'm left thinking "what the heck was all that about". It's hard to put into perspective sometimes but it is a hormone thing and it always passes. Worry when she's like it for weeks on end.
2006-07-28 07:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her , or have one of her friends talk to her . Try to get her to understand how you feel and how she acts. There is medicine that her doctor can prescribe that can help with the PMS and she will be her normal self all the time . I mean a mood swing for one day or something like that still may come , its normal but for it to be that bad every time Aunt Flow comes for her monthly visit .. not healthy for any of her relationships... good luck and i hope things work out for you , and if its meant to be it will.
2006-07-28 06:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think pms is bad, wait until she reaches menopause. LOL sorry but this is just a way of life, most all women are quite irritable at that time of the month. maybe encourage her to see if there is something her doctor can prescribe for pms or else just stay out of the way. also, you should know women get quite crazy when they get pregnant too......just food for thought for ya....
2006-07-28 06:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are doing really well..so stand by her but when she's not got pms you need to encourage her to see her doctor. I've managed to get mine under a bit of control with progesterone tablets, evening primrose oil capsules and eft councelling. I keep telling my bf it's over then can't remember even saying it and i feel devastated. I get paranoid and scared he'll leave me and push the poor guy's buttons. her doctor could do more to help her. go with her and tell her doctor how bad it is. just remember she doesn't mean it and can't help it and yes she's worth it.
2006-07-28 10:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would she take the same sh1t from you?
i doubt it.
she needs to realise she is being a cow. sorry to other girls reading this but there is no excuse for bad manners. (and i speak from experience, extreme PMS and crippling pain every month for 14 years.)
lots of girls use this as an excuse to have a bit of power over men, they push them to see how much he will take before he will break, then they push a little farther in different areas of the relationship. Ive seen it from lots of friends.
2006-07-28 10:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by irish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it, tell her that she does in fact have a problem and you should not have to put up with it, there is nothing at all to say she has to have PMS, it can be easily prevented in most women - if she is unwilling to deal with the problem then tell her you are unwilling to put up with the abuse.
2006-07-30 11:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by Kasha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only a few women truely suffer from real PMS. It's terrible I feel so sorry for those few. Tell her to go and see her Doctor and see what they can reccommend
2006-07-28 07:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by northukstudent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋