Question for gay/lesbian people????

Question

When you go to dance who is the one who leads???

ALso..who is the one that opens the doors and stuff???

DO you decide before or what???

No it isn't me who wants to date any man , It just came to my mind who could lead during a dance lol

Answer 1

Why do you care you want to date?

Answer 2

Usually people in same sex relationships are more egalitarian. I have always opened doors for others, and also had others open doors for me. It's never been a huge issue. Plus, nowadays it is unlikely that I will ever be in a situation where I will be performing a dance that will require one person to lead. It isn't really necessary at a club, or even in most slow dances now. I'm sure some couples decide before, but I really can't say that it's such a huge issue that I would ever think to discuss it with a date or girlfriend beforehand.

Answer 3

Whoever reaches the door first opens it. However, there are some gay men that date drag queens and transsexual women that are kinda "diva"ish and wish to have their doors opened for them by their more masculine partner. Same goes for the butch/femme lesbian relationships. But that's very archaic and some don't even follow those roles. As far as dancing, most gay people go to gay bars where they tend to play a lot of upbeat/techno music where the issue doesn't even come into play. However, I did regularly attend a country lesbian bar where they would country dance to slow songs and do the little dancing where you go around in a circle to a kind of "two step" I guess and they would alternate back and forth, I thought that was kinda cool.

Answer 4

For dancing...I can only give my experience (which is what I expect you were looking for). You kinda...drift and take turns like. There's a lot that society places under gender expectations that really has nothing to do with gender: I see it as a blessing that I get to make all that stuff up as I go. There's no "given", or even expectation, as to who cooks, or who cleans what, or whatever else.

As for opening doors: I tend to open doors for EVERYONE, habitually, so I usually do. The only exception I could htink of was this one female friend I had who literally insisted (to the point of getting physical lol) on holding the door for everyone.

I think the short answer to your question is that we need to do a lot more either testing or communicating. I prefer the latter.

Answer 5

Well it has been a long time since I waltzed....but I would lead because I am a better dancer. However most of my dancing these days is done in a way where there is no 'lead' - youa re just both on the dance floor.

Whoever gets to the door first opens it in my world.......

Answer 6

We don't go to gay bars and dance very often, but when we do my partner leads--mainly because she is taller. We open door for each other randomly, sometimes not at all, and occasionally I've seen if there are two doors into a building we each open one for the other. We don't open car doors for each other, but we will unlock them for the other most times, whoever gets to the car first. Other courtesies we do for one another are countless, depend on the situation, who's up from their chair and who aches the most that day.

Answer 7

Who ever can lead, usually the stronger dancer, I've had to drag a guy around the dance floor many times. But my lady is a follower and I lead.
As for the door, we are very good to each other and I'm not a controll freak so I enjoy her opening the door too- even though I'm the butch.
As for a roll in the hay, Same as above. give take, please pleas-er, Lead follow.. That's why the sex is so good. :}~

Answer 8

lead/follow is usually done by who does what better...some guys cannot follow, but can lead, etc. Doors??? who in the heck cannot open their own door? This is an archaic politeness..usually whoever reaches the door first holds if for the other to enter...just common sense. You are thinking from a male/female standpoint. Male/Male or female/female things are much easier...it is a flow of what happens and who is happier doing what. It works out well that way. Good luck

Answer 9

I'm going to be nice and serious. the better dancer leads, whomever reaches the door first should open it, if at the same time the one on the right (depending on door direction) that's all small stuff, we just do what comes natural. there are no gay etiquette handbooks per se. i usually do all that stuff because I'm southern and i was raised to be a gentleman.

Answer 10

whichever one wants to do that. It can be interchangeable. Doesn't matter.