We were going out for 5 months and I broke up with him cause I found out that he loved my best friend. He called me for the first time in 2 months and he was asking me for a lot of things I need help
2006-07-28 06:08:51 · 45 answers · asked by cooking queen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The best revenge is to ignore him. What a jerk! After what he did to you!
2006-07-28 06:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by AvantG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see a lot of opinions here, but really the best advise is really going to come from you. You are the only one that knows the details of the issues surrounding the relationships failures. In a lot of cases, you can still just be friends, there is no reason to hate or avoid him.
If he hurt you in some way by acting on an emotion toward someone else, then you should talk about that. You may not ever be together as a couple, but at least nothing is bottled up.
Also, you say he is asking a lot of things, that's pretty unclear. If he is asking what your favorite color is, that's harmless... If he is asking for you to do things for him, or if you can get back together...? That's totally different.
My suggestion is simply to take it easy. You've has a break, and you need to discuss the issues. I believe this to be the most responsible thing to do. You feelings are valid, I would feel the same way. Talking is uncomfortable, but it will heal you in the long run.
2006-07-28 06:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have a lot of mixed feelings about this. I had an ex who was involved with my cousin. I was very hurt and angry and of course ended the relationship. I ended up moving out of the state. About a year later he called me and when I heard his voice I had so many memories of how much I had loved him. But the fact remains he is a liar and a cheater. Loving him won't make him treat you right. You need to be strong and don't look back. For this reason I told my ex to please not call me again. Why torture yourself? Make a clean break. You already suffered when he was with your friend. Are you supposed to now be tormented every time he selfishly takes your feelings for granted by calling you and making you second guess your decision to leave him? Once you start dating again you'll forget all about him. But in the meantime do yourself a favor and stand your ground. If you take him back it will only prove to him that he can do it again in the future.
2006-07-28 06:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by ŧťŠ4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am way down here on the totem pole, but oh well, I want to put my 2 cents worth in here to, lol. This is not funny and I know that it is not.
But really you have two things going on here at the same time.
1.You caught him cheating on you with your "best friend". If this is his first time to cheat on you, make him sweat it out. If he has cheated on you in the past, good bye, no return. I would make sure that you had nothing of his in you possession at all. No matter what it is, give it all back to him and let him be on his way.
2.You said that it was your "best friend" that you caught him with. That would be an ex best friend as well. The best friend was not a friend at all to go out with him knowing that you and him were together. Real friends don't do friends that way.
2006-07-28 06:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex for a reason...and he needs to know that..i mean he probably thinks you still love him and would do anything for him..that would be why he may be calling you...don't let it work..you have to tell him that he hurt you because he fell in love with your best friend so why should you help him out...you don't need people like that in your life..they just complicate things and make situations very akward...so just tell him to take a hike and get help from someone else...because he betrayed you...
2006-07-28 06:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by EvEl_LiL_kArEbEaR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this even a question? DO NOT TALK TO HIM!! He cares not only for someone else but your best friend and the thought actually entered your mind to talk to him? He has no right to ask you for anything. Tell him to leave you alone and call someone who cares.
2006-07-28 06:12:06 · answer #6 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear, its tough if you still have feelings for him. But i think you deserve better than someone who is obviously not in love with you and will only turn to you in times of need. Good luck!
2006-07-28 06:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by NickynJessie H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to back off and he loved or loves your best friend and that he needs to stay out of your life
2006-07-28 06:11:30 · answer #8 · answered by I Luv ME!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not worth it. There is a lot of men out there. If you go back with him, are you going to trust him? How do you know he will not do it again?
2006-07-28 06:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang up the phone that's the good part of calls if shows up don't answer the door he just wants inf from you he can't get anywhere else and really don't need user
2006-07-28 06:13:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have answered his phone call...that let him know he had you...next time he calls ask if you can call him back and dont call. when he calls again, say you are busy can you call him back. he'll get the picture. you dont need a guy like that in your life. trust me when i tell you
2006-07-28 06:12:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋