1) Did you marry willingly?
2) If you are Christian or Islamic, did your husband convert you, did you convert your husband, or neither?
3) How does your husband treat you?
4) Do you agree with the oppressive stereotypes made about Christian and Islamic marriages?
2006-07-28 06:00:12 · 10 answers · asked by man_id_unknown 4 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Actually, I'm a Christian & my husband is not.
1. I married him willingly, and he not only married me willingly but also fought for me. My husband refused to let me go, even though so many people told us that a relationship cannot work if the couple has different religious beliefs.
2. Neither of us converted the other. He respects & admires my love for the Lord. I respect that he is not "religious". The choice to become a Christian needs to be his own decision. I do not pressure him, because I don't want him to pretend he is a Christian just for me. I love my husband for who he is, not what he isn't. My husband has, however, gone to church with me before, and often studies the Bible with me. He is a very moralistic person, and a huge history buff. So Biblical events interest him. He also likes to involve himself in the things I do.
3. My husband is the very BEST hubby & dad to our three children. He treats me with absolute love, respect, honestly and he is 100% committed to our family! In the 10 years we have been together, he has proven time & time again that our family is his first priority. Likewise, I treat him accordingly. I adore him and am blessed by him. I thank God everyday for the beautiful family He has given me!
4. No, I certainly do not agree with the oppressive stereotypes. One's religion may be the primary influence on their beliefs, but it is never the only influence in their life. Believers, just like non- believers, are influenced by their surroundings... work, school, politics, society, how they were raised...
I have read articles and seen news reports about the Islamic marriages. How the men beat their wives and treat their families poorly. I'm certain this does occur, as does domestic violence in the US. However, I personally know an Islamic couple that do not behave that way. This is not the "norm" for their culture.
As for oppressive Christian marriages... I have never heard of such thing. If anything the Christian wives I know are stronger than many non-Christian women in the sense that they are more secure about themselves. They feel a greater worth and purpose. Likewise, the husbands have more value for their wives, loving them for more than sex or physical attraction (not that all men do that). They tend to have a deeper bond. I also believe they have greater joy because they have something to hope in. Their faith gives them the ability to stay strong when the trials of marriage get tough... finances, moving, children, work, stress & death.
When it comes down to it, I don't see much difference between people. We are all basically here doing the same things... school, work, family.
Stereotypes, in any situation, are ignorant views held by those who have no knowledge of the issue at hand. They don't have an educated opinion of the situation, so they repeat some lame hearsay quote to make themselves feel witty. I believe anyone who honestly agrees with stereotype comments is weak-minded and highly lacking compassion.
2006-07-28 08:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by .·:*RENE*:·. 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
To answer your questions:
1. I met my husband at a friend's wedding, chose him out of all the men I saw that day, and we married each other willingly, just not on the day I really wanted.
2. When I was seriously looking for a husband, the first thing on my list was that he had to be a Christian, a member of the Church of Christ . That was a non-negotiable item. My husband was already a Christian, as was I. He has helped my faith become stronger since our married life began.
3. My husband treats me with the respect and dignity that I am due as his wife. He doesn't tell me what to do, but I give him the respect due him as the head of the house. That doesn't mean that he makes all the decisions and I have no say. We make important decisions together.
4. I don't know anything about Islamic culture, so I can't speak on it; however, I married a man who is a member of the Church of Christ, and members of this church don't oppress their spouses. Don't get me wrong, he's not perfect, and neither am I, but after 16 years together and 13 years married, we are perfect for each other.
Hope this helped you.
2006-07-28 19:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a Christian I married willingly. I am a Christian as well. Neither of us converted the other. We were both already Christians when we married. I would not have married a non-Christian. In my opinion, there's nothing more attractive than a true Christian man, and I do mean true. He is the head of our household and the authority in our marriage. I would have it no other way.
2006-07-28 10:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by katbmom1992 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so hung up on women? Could it be that, fundementally, you cannot understand why holy books portray women as subjects, yet are too blinded by the doctrine of your religion to question it head on. You always go around the houses to bring up an issue, then congratulate someone for giving you an answer that backs up your religious rationale.
This can only mean two things. Either you are doubting the conviction of your beliefs and are inviting others to reaffirm them. Or, you have absolutely no truck with another point of view, so why ask the question in the first place? Why not just state your opinion?
2006-07-28 07:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by R.I.P. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Muslim I think there is only one answer, if a Muslim man wants to marry a Christian Girl so he can, but the woman has to be Muslim, she willl have to accept Islam by heart, but its vise versa is not possible, a Muslim Woman can't marry a Christian Man.
A Muslim man can not only marry a Christian woman rather he can marry to any woman whatever her religion may be, even non--believer, but rule is equal to all the woman that she will accept Islam first , then their NIKAAH(Paper Marriage) will be possible.
2006-07-28 16:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if its a marriage.... neither one should be extremely religious....because its not gonna work.... it can't......you can respect one's religion...and never really talk about it..lol....it can work .....although it is a bit harder..to have 2 religions in one household..and then when the kids come.... what is it gonna be ......christian or islamic... or let him/her choose... u really gotta be open minded...about religious differences if you're going to marry someone who is not the same religion.........good luck!!!
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