I have been with this guy for 7 yrs.; we have 3 kids ages 3,4 & 6. He doesn't let me have friends, I have to call and check in all the time and heaven forbid I don't answer the phone. I have tried to say get lost but he WON'T. I have called the police to have him removed but he still doesn't get the picture. He says he will run off with the kids and I will never see them again! I don't get child support for fear that they will grant him visitation and he will take off with them! What can I do?
2006-07-28 05:51:25 · 8 answers · asked by Jennifer A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The police said I can't get a restraining order until he hurts me or the kids really bad.
2006-07-28 05:57:22 · update #1
I have continued the relationship for fear my children would be taken! Yes it is my fault I guess but when your backed in a corner you do what you have to do to protect your kids!
2006-07-28 05:59:02 · update #2
We have never been married - he has been married but won't divorce his wife because he doesn't want to pay her child support for his other kids (they're in Mexico)
2006-07-28 06:01:09 · update #3
I'm sorry for your situation. It's gotta be frightening to be associated with one who is so possessive. I would definitely get a restraining order against him...ESPECIALLY, since he's threatened you as you've noted. Also ensure that you have written directives for each school your children attend (preschool included!) that he is NOT permitted to pick up the children.
Should he come around at all, call the authorities and put his @$$ in jail!. As for financial support, I'd ck with an attny. A father needs to be providing child support. Ensure that you question the attny regarding income tax filing....another way to collect child support from one who may refuse to pay.
Obviously the ultimate concern is for you and your children to remain out of harms way. That means, keeping him out of your life. I wish you the very best.
2006-07-28 06:07:30 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have yourself in a bad situation. Can you move in with your parents? This guy is not husband material. You have made 3 children with him so he is going to be in your life for the rest of your life. I would suggest to get out and focus on raising your kids. You need to obtain legal counsel as well. Good luck!
2006-07-28 13:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a lawyer. Are you married to him? If not formally married, you may have a common law marriage in place. You can probably get a restraining order, but that doesn't do much good if he's prone to violence.
2006-07-28 12:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i can tell you is that if this was going on for awhile it's probably your fault for not leaving along time ago when you saw things got bad you should have walked away but you let it go for years and now its hard to let go he gots you where he wants you and he knows that because you never did nothing
2006-07-28 12:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just another white HO that got involved with a Mexican... I think its great that you got your misery, stupid HO... Should have done the right thing and got yourself a nice white man. Plenty of us out there looking for love... hahhahhhah, I hope all misery for you, HO.... You life is over... hahhahahha Now, no white guy wants ya...
2006-07-28 12:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by johncharlesrealty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez this is some jerry springer stuff...the only thing i can think of is pretty drastic, but that's where you are anyway, so...all i can think to do is get him to hit you and/or the kids, leaving evidence of abuse, or set up cameras. find serious police, lawyers, and judges for your case and go from there.
2006-07-28 12:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by Billy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to live with your mom and get a restraining order. Do what ever you have to do to get away from him.
2006-07-28 12:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by babyjay_babyjae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move in with family...
2006-07-28 12:54:25 · answer #8 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋