Any suggestions on what I can do? We don't live together but stay together everyother week, when I don't have my kids. I sleep naked, I try to start things, i get shot down or ignored. I don't think I'm that bad looking for him to not be attracted to me anymore so what's the deal!? We do work different shifts, but that didn't stop us in the beginning! I need some suggestions! I 'take care of' myself and he himself (or so i suppose) so I know it's not that! I just need help! And serious answers only please!
2006-07-28 05:39:36 · 4 answers · asked by sharyn95 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1) Read books on the topic. Each make lists of things you'd like to try.
2) Consider taking turns - alternate taking the lead every weekend. Suggest alternating who leads or defines that weekend's physical interaction: the timing, frequency, and activities. This will likely do some good and pleasantly surprising things:
- Both people feel like they are getting more of what they want on their days.
- Both people get a "day off" where they don't have to decide what to do.
- Everyday doesn't feel like a compromise, meeting "halfway" but never really getting what either wants.
- Both people are allowed to communicate, taking turns listening and expressing. They know they can both speak and be heard, and that enboldens both men and women.
- You discover your partner is happier because they get what they want and they get to take charge a fair amount of the time. And you might be surprised that their libido increases as a result of them having a fair amount of control over the level & direction of things. With clear license & encouragement to be expressive, their enjoyment of the physical activity may increase.
3) Take massage courses to incorporate a variety of therapeutic massages into your physical interaction. This will be more pleasing in more than purely sexual ways, adding more incentive to spend intimate time together physically. Good luck
2006-07-29 13:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by onemorealternative 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Viagra won't help his libido.. either he is getting it elsewhere, or he is too wound up, tired or not in the mood. If the latter, a nice negligee and seduction might work..If he is getting it elsewhere, maybe you should start looking for that too
2006-07-28 06:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that your whole relationship has just run its course and he see's it as a way of getting out by ignoring your needs. good luck in your search for a new companion!
2006-07-28 05:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
viagra is all i can think
2006-07-28 05:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋