She went on a business trip and..?

Question

My wife went on her business trip but when she came home she has been crying for 3 days. I have asked her what happened and she just says that her boss yelled at her for losing the account. I don't know that I believer her. What do you think could have happened? We have been married 17 years, 2 kids, fairly ok sex life. Help!

I have been very gentle with her. I'm not the type of be an a** to her. As for questioning her having an affair, I didn't bring it up. Our history includes an "almost" 3some one time prior to marriage with a male friend of ours. Other than that, no reason to expect her to cheat. someone else asked if sex was ok since she got home, and it has been non-existant. Also, it's not that time of month. Thanks for your answers, some are very very good.

Answer 1

I don't think a woman would cry for 3 days unless there was some extreme pain or guilt. Unfortunately you have to suspect that she had an affair while on the trip. Perhaps when she was gone she did something that made her feel guilty when she got home around you and the kids. I don't know that she will ever admit to anything, but be patient and kind to her. Don't push her into telling you anything. Just wait for her to open up, but don't be surprised if she never tells you the truth. Advice for you and everyone else...never create more sadness in a relationship. If you had an affair, don't tell anyone. It will just hurt more people. Good Luck

Answer 2

This all depends on how serious she takes her work. It sounds suspicious to me though. I don't really want to go there but I think you should probably hope for the worst. Lots of times, people have such a guilty conscience they would rather mourn than come free. These are the danger signs. With draw, Lack of sexual activity, solitude, drinking, addiction, obsessing, being a constant busy body. Multiple showering or bathing. short kisses, less eye contact. If you were to have intercourse the warning signs are that of what are not normal to you. Different positions, discomfort (her). It can go both ways watch out for her being over accusing. In her mind she will try and justify her guilt by making you guilty. If she suddenly suspects that your having an affair at work, BINGO! She's busted and you have your answer. You can always call her job get a little information regarding the account, name, client, and client holder then impersonate as an executive follow up agent and impose by asking specifics to the account, like any further inquires adjustments and over all evaluation. You can always ask someone who works with her that may have been on the trip or who may have possible knowledge of "this account". If you look hard enough and your suspicions are true, Be strong, and make the right decision.. Good luck.

Answer 3

Same thing you think could have happened. You really have no proof though, and without knowing her better, it's impossible to say for sure. Is she really serious about her job? Is her boss usually very critical, and does it seem to really bother her that he is?
If she usually gets along quite well with him, and she's not prone to crying jags, I think what happened on that business trip was more personal than she's willing to say. Doesn't mean she cheated--but she may be struggling with some feelings that she discovered that she has for the boss, and vice versa. Don't accuse her of anything--you have no idea what may be going on. He may even have harassed her, and she is afraid to tell you that. Women tend to blame themselves for that stuff, you know. I would gently ask her if maybe she needs to talk to a counselor, cos she seems extremely upset by all of this. That way, you aren't accusing her of anything, and you are being supportive, while letting her know that this seems a bit out of proportion as a reaction.

Answer 4

Sweetie this is just speculation:
But I think that maybe Ur wife had sex with her boss. Now whether it was consentual or not I'm not sure. U need to try to get her talk to U, he/;she could have forced themself on her or because she lost the account they could have put her in a compromising position and with her affraid of losing her job she might have been forced to do so.
Either way U need to take Ur wife into Ur arms when it's just the two of U and have a serious talk with her. Her loss of interest to sex is why I question what REALLY happen on that trip.

Good Luck....

Answer 5

I'm sorry to say, but what everyone is saying si right. You do have 17 years together so you should trust her first and give her the benefit of the doubt, but she may have been sleeping with her boss. I agree with Valerie's comment. She may hve been seeing her boss for a while and he may have broken it off. How does she respond to you in bed? Is she not "in the mood" lately? That wouldn't have anything to do with losing an account. Approach the situation lovingly. There my have been problems in your relationship that you didn't know were there. Be open ad receptive to what she is telling you. Let her talk. Don't come at her with anger until there is something there to be angry about.

Answer 6

Hmm. Im a woman and I personally wouldn't cry for 3 days over losing an account unless of course I lost my job over it? Go figure. Something is seriously wrong with her. She is losing something - whatever it is, don't go spasmic on her & start accusing her of doing something she hasn't done or you don't know for sure that she's done - yet. Talk to her more. Eventually things will reveal itself in their own time. Try to talk about things and get the details on the "account" she lost. Talk to her about it. Is she giving you details of it? If she isn't then you can be worried. Have you ever had reason to believe she was cheating before? She might have lost something but necessarily an account. Delve deeper to get answers.

Answer 7

Crying for 3 days seems excessive, but sometimes hormones can make a woman cry like crazy. It's even possible to cry and not know what you are crying about. If you have no reason to doubt your wife's faithfulness (other than the strange crying), then just talk to her again when she comes up for air. Be kind, loving, and affectionate. She'll "break" and let you know what is going on.

Answer 8

If you're asking whether or not we think she is deceiving you - my answer would be no, she's not. Maybe her boss is just *that* mean, maybe it was *that* important of an account; maybe she's just being extra emotional this week. You might have other reasons to question the integrity of your marriage, I don't know, you have not mentioned them in your question.

I don't think she would be so stupid as to be crying in front of you if she wanted to hide something from you. There are plenty of ways to conceal tears. She had a bad day at work, she wants your sympathy - give it to her.

Answer 9

Let's see...humm seventeen years, two children, sex life OK. gees you still have sex after seventeen years!! man what is wrong with you!! Are you looking for an excuse to cheat on your wife?? Because that's the way it sounds to me!
Sit back bud and really think about what your asking... is your wife dedicated to her work does she try on a daily basis to improve, to go higher than what is expected.
Maybe she is crying because she gave it her all and was disappointed because she failed. did you ever think of that? hum... guess not! you asked the question did you not! Sounds to me like she needs you right now to boost her self confidence a little, give a little moral support, after all who can you count on but family!! You are her rock her foundation don't crumble on her she is looking for your support she was crying because she was hurting! You have a good thing don't screw it up with petty thoughts!!

Answer 10

seriously hun, u know you've been married for 17 years.. Isn't communication the only way to saving a marriage?? You need to talk to her and being supicious of things just adds more problems. You need to ask her in a loving, gentle, and non-defensive way, " Are you sure you are alright honey, is there anything else bothering you? You can talk to me about anything, I will just listen." Make sure you are approachable!!!!! If she answers that everything is fine, then you need to tell her that you worried about her and you felt that maybe something else happened. tell her your worries. dont assume things. just ask her to be honest with you. you need to communicate!!!!!!!!!! maybe she is going through menopause???? That could be a reason she is crying over something that seems so ridiculous!! there could be tons of factors for emotional breakdowns for women!!! Many blessings to you!