Help! My husband is considering circumcision?

Question

My husband recently began thinking about getting circumcised. Oddly enough i've never been with a circumcised man and didn't really know how to respond when he told me he was thinking about having it done? Is it really any different at all? Will lovemaking feel different? Has anyone been in a similar situation? Well any answers/advice would help really.

I've been told it feels different, but how does it feel different really?

Answer 1

I have been with both, and there is no difference in how lovemaking feels. If that will make him happy, you will not really see any difference.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Lovemaking for you won't feel different and the cervical cancer answer was kind of dumb because cervical cancer mainly comes from HPV (virus that causes genital warts. A large percent of the time the human immune system can filter out the virus so your paps will return to normal. Yes the virus can go away.) If you are husband and wife and he carries it then you already have it and the same if you carried it and he wasn't infected. I have been with both types and I prefer the uncircumcised. Just as long as he keeps a good cleaning routine then he really doesn't need this surgery.

Answer 3

It is likely to feel different for him, though it is unlikely you will be able to feel very much difference yourself. The problem for women is that the purpose of the foreskin is to spread the male pre-ejaculate over the whole of the head of the penis and the first inch or so of the shaft. Circumcised men's penis's don't do this, and it can make lovemaking a little harder, as it relies on your own fluids to be sufficient to allow entry to your vagina. You could try using lubricants on the end of his penis if it proves difficult in this way.

One question though: why on earth is he considering this serious and unnecessary operation? Unless he is suffering from some medical condition such as an over-tight foreskin or some kind of persistent infection (which is more likely to be avoided by keeping his penis clean), it is a very bad move indeed. You are unlikely to be able to have intercourse for at least a month, he is likely to find it painful, and he is likely to find it harder to continue for long without ejaculating. It hardly sounds ideal.

Edit: To all these answerers who say it is more hygienic: WHAT IS SO DIFFICULT ABOUT KEEPING YOUR PENIS PROPERLY CLEAN?! If women can wash their genitals effectively, no man has an excuse not to clean himself thoroughly as well.

Answer 4

Make sure that he does research and sees both sides of circumcision. It is no longer considered something that must be done to all males babies because it is cleaner, healthier, etc. It is not medically necessary and as long as the man can stand taking a shower, he won't be any cleaner. He will be in alot of pain and needs to go to a good doctor so that he heals properly but if he wants to do it, more power to him.

Answer 5

I have heard from hundreds of women on Yahoo Answers and in real life, and 95% said there was NO difference.

Also, some women think that circumcised is cleaner, but truly it's not. Many American Organizations have come to the conclusion that an uncut penis can be just as clean as long as you wash it.

Answer 6

I knew a guy in the army who was stationed with me in Japan 40 years ago. He scheduled himself to be circumcised two weeks before he was due to return to the states. Everybody made fun of him, but he pointed out that 1) it was free, and 2) it would keep him from being stupid enough to pick up a last-minute dose from the wrong prostitute. I think he was reaching pretty far. If I knew your husband, I'd laugh at him.

Answer 7

If that's what he wants, support him, because he is not going to cause anything to change in the lovemaking. I was told that it's actually more hygienic, which is obvious. But you can also be uncircumcised and still be hygienic if you wash frequently. So there's really no point there.

Answer 8

Well it's better for his health for one to be circumcised. It can lead to problems it can also start tearing. My nephew was not circumcised until it started getting bad. But it's no biggie. I don't know how it'll feel before and after but think about his health and what can come out of not being circumcised and maybe you'll change your tune

Answer 9

TELL HIM NOT TO DO BECAUSE HE WILL LOSE SOME SENSITIVITY IN THERE. THE LOSS OF FEELING IS SIMILAR TO THE DIFFERENCE IN SENSATION YOU FEEL ON THE TOP OF YOUR HAND AND IN THE PALM OF YOUR HAND. RUB THE TOP OF YOUR HAND, THEN RUB ALONG THE PALM, DO YOU FEEL THE DIFFERENCE IN SENSATION? THE PALM IS WHAT HE'S FEELING NOW, THE TOP IS WHAT HE WILL BE FEELING IF HE GOES THROUGH WITH THIS.



Stormy, I read article and this is what it really said

"The difference was statistically significant only in the partners of men considered to be at high risk for infection with human papillomavirus, or HPV, according to the study in The New England Journal of Medicine. Such men had had at least six sexual partners in their lifetime, beginning before age 17."

Now, if you understood statisitics, you'd understand that the risk only is greater in men that have HPV. Normal men who don't have high risk for infection aren't included in this.

Answer 10

Why? Why? Why?

These days there are NO hygenic reasons for circumcision if you bathe at least once a day. There will therefore be no smell. Accusations otherwise are just born out of ignorance. If you consider most of European men, for instance, are uncircumcised, don't you think they would have moved to circumcision en masse long ago if circumcision was the most hygenic and correct thing to do? Europe is not medically backward. Circumcision is widely practiced in the USA but the numbers are diminishing every year as more and more parents realise that this is just a moneymaking scam by the medical profession and an unneccessary mutilation of their male child. All major US medical councils state that circumcision is an outdated procedure.

Almost all other reasons for circumcision are now medically treatable and therefore, circumcision is unneccessary.

For women, an intact penis is DESIGNED to work better that a circumcised one because the foreskin allows for greater movement during sexual intercourse and less lubrication is required. To remove your foreskin would be like a woman removing her clitoris - unneccessary and barbaric. Why some pople say that female circumcision is barbaric but yet they condone male circumcision of tiny, defenceless babies is a mystery to me.

A foreskin better for the man because his glans is soft and sensitive - the glans on circumcised penises gets thick and hard over the years and decreases sensitivity and can even lead to erection problems.

The natural penis may be more comfortable for the vagina than the circumcised penis. The coronal ridge of the natural penis is more flexible; liken it to the resiliency of Jell-O. The circumcised penile head is considerably harder--overly firm and compacted like an unripe tomato. This is because circumcision cuts away 33-50 percent of penile skin. As a result, the skin of the penile shaft can get stretched so tightly during an erection that it pulls down on the skin covering the glans, compressing the tissue of the penis head. The abnormally hardened coronal ridge can then be very uncomfortable to vaginal tissue during intercourse.

Women sometimes experience a scraping feeling with each outward stroke and even report discomfort after intercourse or even the next day. The brain makes pain-relieving endorphins that may partially block any discomfort during intercourse itself. Painful intercourse is a very common symptom in women, many of whom blame themselves or who feel that something is wrong with their sexual response.

The give of the natural penis, by contrast, allows for more bend and flex of the organ in the vagina, adding to a woman's pleasure and comfort. The abundant skin of the natural penile shaft further cushions the force of the coronal ridge in the vagina. In addition, the mobile skin of the penis is "grasped" by the ridges of the vaginal mucosa and held in place. The bunching and unbunching of penile skin during intercourse enhances a man's pleasure, but it also excites the woman.

Circumcised sex may cause the vagina to abnormally tense up and decrease its lubrication. Women report more problems with lubrication when having sex with circumcised men, possibly because of irritation from the harder tip and involuntary tensing against it, and also because the longer stroke length tends to remove lubrication from the vagina. Often an artificial lubricant is necessary.

Intercourse may also be painful for the circumcised man because his penis scrapes against the ribbed structure of tensed-up vaginal walls and becomes over stimulated from constant pressure. The degree of discomfort, if any, will depend upon the tightness of the man's shaft skin, the vigor of his thrusting, the duration of intercourse, and the amount of lubrication.

Circumcision may cause a man to work harder to achieve orgasm, resulting in emotional and physical distancing from his partner. When a circumcised man has sex, he may have to concentrate intensely on the erotic sensations he is receiving while simultaneously blocking out any uncomfortable sensations. Survey respondents often reported that their circumcised partners seemed to have to work too hard to achieve orgasm. And because of the erotic tissue that has been removed, he can't enjoy the sensations leading up to orgasm or his partner's responses.