This is very serious/ Help? T or P?

Question

I have two good guy friends who are both interested in getting married to me. Who would u go with. I will name them T and P.

T - I have know for months and he is a really good friend.
P - I have know for 6 years and he is a really good friend.
T - Does not drink and is very responsible
P - Drinks every day. Even though he claims just 4-7 shots a day.
T - makes good money.
P - Makes good money too.
T - is 26 and has moved away from his parents.
P- is 31 swears he will live with his mother for the rest of his life.
T - His parents love and there is nothing they would not do for me
P - His mom hates for him to share his attention between u.
T- Is ready to have a family and provide for them.
P - Wants to travel the world and does not want any children.
T - Is not that good looking but he has a beautiful heart.
P- Is very good looking and a good person , too.
T - Wants me to do whetever I want
P- Has an idea of what my life should like and is loud and abusive

T - Is diabetic and has acknowledge that he cannot perform as well in bed (but he is willing to try new things).
P- I was in a relationship with for three years and he is excellent in bed.
T - has a degree.
P- Does not want to go to school even at 31.
T - is not abusive and knows what he wants.
P- has laid his hands on me before and hit a couple of time. He forced me to have an abortion when we were dating.

Help me I don't kno what to do.

I love both of them. I am just inlove with T. he is real and is willing to give whatever to be with me. But I have know P for so long and was in a relationship with him before.

Answer 1

well it sounds to me that T is your best bet .. I would still remain friends with P .. looks are nothing . what is in side counts . sounds like P has alot of issues he needs to fix .

Answer 2

Go with T. Sounds like P may be 31, but hasn't grown up yet. You want someone in your life who will help you grow as a person and feel good about yourself and T sounds like that person. P may be nice to look at, but that fades and all your left with is a drunk who makes u feel like crap about yourself and who can't let go of mom. Then you'll look back when it's too late and say you should've picked T. T will become more handsome to you when you start to appreciate everything he has to offer. It seems like you are already in love with his heart and that's were the connection in a marriage should really be. You need to be able to respect the person for who he is and what he can do for you. P can't give you much and you'll start to resent him for it. Do go into marriage heading towards divorce. Who would you choose if divorce wasn't an option? Who would you choose if I had wrote this question??? The answer is right in front of you.

Answer 3

You better chose T. P sounds like he would control your every move, cheat on you and definitely abuse you verbally and physically. Assholes are good to have as friends, but not husbands.
I just read your details. Any man that would force you to have an abortion is not someone you want to be with. So what if T isn't attractive and isn't great in bed. Honey, stay away from any kind of relationship with P. Don't even be his friend if he's this rude and controlling towards you.

Answer 4

Sweetie you sound very confused, what you feel for P is not love. You said it yourself, you are in love with T. You have known P for so long that in a way you are used to him, but not in love with him at least it doesn't sound like it now.
Sex is very important in marriage but marriage is not all about sex. Even if T can't perform as well as P, I am sure he will make you happy if you are willing to make love more than have sex.
I personally would take T, I know that P has an alcohol problem even if he denies it, and when drunk he might beat me, T on the other hand would Love you to death and seems like to me that he would be a wonderful father. For you, and your future children if you want to have any, choose P.
XOXOXOX:)

Answer 5

Are you really planning to be happily married or you want some kick and sorry after commitment?
It is your life ahead. Is it so deep in the mud that you can't pull yourself out? Choose P if you enjoy being abuse and throw around like a puppet.
I am sure you have heard an advice saying is better to have him loved you more than you love him. What help do you want? You have no "Monster in law" problem, you can have your way of life, your family, you are being respected as a woman and are you saying that you can't say yes to T because you can't bring yourself to say 'No and Sorry' to P.
I guess people do get upset hearing your BIG PROBLEM.
It is your call.....

Answer 6

You know the right answer. You just want other people to validate your feelings. You already dated P and he has obviously laid his hands on you. You two broke up for a reason the first time, do you really think you should give it a second shot?

Answer 7

Seriously you need to read what you wrote. The decision is simple. You don't want someone who has no ambition, and is abusive. I think T is more the way to go. If you want reassurance that you are making the right decision. If you don't want T tell him to look me up.

Answer 8

you should allwas think of your future and what would be best in the long run for you and posably your children someday p would not set a good exsample for your kids and you sould never let some abuse you verbaly fisicly or emoshanaly t sound like a good choice forgive my spelling

Answer 9

P is a dick. If he hit you before he'll hit you again. If you finished with him before you'll finish with him again.

I tell ya if I knew of a man that hit a girl I'd rip his f**king head off.

If you're not sure about T either then go and find someone else - there are millions of us out there...

Answer 10

Even a person with IQ of 50 will pick T