I am a bisexual female. my situation is i have a boyfriend who i love dearly and recently i told him that i have been bisexual since i was 15. i am now 23. we dated for 2.5 years before i told him of my sexuality. i told him that i am always out messing around with girls and he is cool with it. he said if thats what i feel like i need to do then do it. he just wants to know about it. I don't really form relationships with these girls, maily just friends with benefits. we don't have threesomes or anything like that. my question is am i wrong for going out and finding random girls? do you think this is goona hurt my relationship with my boyfriend?
2006-07-28 05:09:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
it will in the long run
2006-07-28 17:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by weaver2sl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Questions about "am I wrong", you ultimately need to answer for yourself. You might want to consider: is it implied, then, that you're in an open relationship and he may mess around with other girls as well?
I personally try not to judge the relationships of others (with a few extreme exceptions). There's a LOT that I wouldn't do, either because I wouldn't want to, or I wouldn't be able to (polyamoury seems like too much work, for example). I wouldn't necessarily even label this as "unwise" IF you're both really good about communicating and trusting. Do you have any rules or anything? He has to know about it, for example. Are there any specific things he's uncomfortable with you doing? I've heard of a "once per person" rule also; keeps things from getting too involved (or so the theory goes). I think it's POSSIBLE for that to work in a relationship, but you gotta talk about it. Good luck.
2006-07-30 06:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be getting a little too personal and outlandish, but why don't you invite him to join. You may find that there is a mutual enjoyment, and you won't be leaving your boyfriend out of any of your sexual experiences. I think the most important thing to remember is that if he is your boyfriend you should only be having sexual relations with him, but that doesn't necessarily mean you can't invite others into YOUR sexual encounters. Am I making any sense?
2006-07-28 13:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going to suggest some counselling wiht someone who deals with gender identity issues. sounds like you have a lot to work thorugh. sexual promiscuity is risky in his day and age and you can catch stuff through girl on girl contact too. maybe you need to figure out what you are lookig for with this random girl sex.
2006-07-29 02:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved your boyfriend then why are you cheating on him? Being bisexual doesn't give you the excuse to be a cheater.
2006-07-28 12:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by korngoddess1027 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you are cheating on the man you love...but if he is cool with it... only time will let you know if the relationship can withstand you "messing around"
2006-07-28 12:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by SweetCoco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends how strong your relationship with your boyfriend is like.
2006-07-28 13:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by One Hand One Heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nevermind your stupid boyfriend, what about these girls who you are just using for sex?
2006-07-30 00:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by indrep33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell that...
2006-07-28 12:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋