I have a sister who is only 12 and she dresses and acts like she is 21. She is a very cute girl and I am concerned that older guys are attracted to her. But I don't think I should comment on it cause I was on the same path as her at one point. When I was her age I had a boyfriend who was 14. I regreted it. Now, that I am in high school I feel like I am more responisble, but I am afraid my sister wants a boyfriend for all the wrong reasons. I can't tell her no though because of my past.
2006-07-28 05:08:03 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My parents are also concerned, but they don't no the full extent. My sister will wear a heavy sweatshirt to school that covers her top and goes down to her knees, then when we walk around the corner she takes it off.
2006-07-28 05:35:12 · update #1
Tell her to listen to you. Even though this may be seen as hypoctical, your doing the best for her. Just think, if she falls into the wrong hands, more damage can be done to her than good, physically and emothionally. And you don't want that to happen to her. She is only a little girl, so she most likely will follow the crowd and do what ever someone wants her to, because she doesn't realize that she's doing wrong. Be a big sister, because if your hurt her feelings by telling her the truth, is teh right thing to do. She will one day understand, and thank you for doing the right thing.
2006-07-28 06:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by * Flave' * 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hahaha. Thats you'r sister better now than never, u need to be there for her. Shes got all the time to grow up and figure life out.
I'm a older sister and I've gone through alota things I hope my 3 sister never have to live through. But by going through I can help them out. You gotta talk with here and she where shes coming from. If I acted like she did and my big sister didn't think it was her place Then I'd be a reckless child. Look if yo past is that bad, then u better think about how her future will be if you don't speak up.
2006-07-28 12:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set an example for your sister and just come out and tell her that you do not want her going down that path either. You are her sister and if you care about which it seems that you do you would not sit back and let anything happen to her...she is growing way too fast...she needs to be 12 not 21.
2006-07-28 12:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhh.... but that's where you're completely wrong.
Based on your past experiences, you CAN tell her she's doing something you would recommend against, because you DID do the same thing and you KNOW how it will probably turn out.
Personal experience is a VERY good motivator. Leading by example is the best way to teach!
2006-07-28 12:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems to me that she is looking for the wrong attention. Have you tried talking to her about it? Sit her down and let her know that she is dressing a little off the bad side. If she does not listen to you she is apparenty looking for the wrong kind of fritends. People would only use her to hurt her feelings. And in the end she will understand it. She is only twelve years old. And if she still does not listen to you tell your parents.
2006-07-28 13:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by Kidd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you did the same things doesn't mean you can't tell her not too. Just tell her that you made mistakes and you don't want her to make the same bad decisions. If you really want to protect her, show her all the negative things about it and tell her that you care and don't want her to end up going down a bad path.
If you need any help, just contact me. I'd be happy to give a little advice on the subject :)
2006-07-28 12:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your parents involved. If she doesn't change she's gonna end up pregnant or something. Just tell someone ur worried and you don't want her following the same path as you. You sound very smart and clear headed for someone so young good luck with ur sis.
2006-07-28 12:13:21 · answer #7 · answered by jessi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you can tell her you've been in her shoes. You've been on the path she was and you regret it. So I think you have a right to comment about whats going on. But sometimes people just have to make mistakes to learn something! We're humans!
2006-07-28 15:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by mktobyjo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to her about what she is doing is wrong. If she continues then tell her bad and scary things that happened to you (or make them up). Maybe if you scare her a lil bit she'll settle down a lil bit and act her age. Then when she is responsible like you tell her the truth on why you scared her.
2006-07-28 12:55:55 · answer #9 · answered by lpkegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of your experiences, you can show her.
Just because YOU DID IT, doesn't mean that you can't tell her. Your the older sister and you should teach her through example. . Where are the parents or guardians in this matter? They, too should have something to say regarding this.
2006-07-28 12:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by Patience S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋