What do you do when you get on with your life after a divorce and your ex don't what you to be happy and try everything to make your life unhappy and says he will kill you, your boyfriend and your kids or tell you that he will do everything in his power to take your kids way from you when the judge all ready gave you soul custdy of the kids? Can any one help me with this???
2006-07-28 05:07:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Fast action required, tell the police, courts, friends and family . He may just be talking in anger. Also keep a journal of dates ( without letting him know you are doing this) and times he says or shows any threatening behaviour either face to face or in a telephone conversation, write what he says. This will be priceless if you need to go back to court or approach the police at a later date, you will have written evidence. Do not verbally or physically threaten him in anyway. The protection of the children and your family is the most important thing now. Has he had violent tendencies in the past? I hope it all turns out OK for you, best wishes and love those kids xxx PS....play it cool and DO not show this bully asshole any signs of weakness, he needs to get on with his life too.
2006-07-28 05:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by minitheminx65 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get a restraining order!!!! File a complaint with the Police Department.Sheriffs office so that if anything DOES happen then you can always have it on record. Law Enforcement Agencies are taking domestic violence a lot more seriously than they used to. His statements could also get him arrested for "terroristic threats." You need to get it legally put on paper and making a formal complaint is the best way to do so. Do this ASAP!!!! And get a restraining order put on him and your children. You may also be able to contact your states FREE Legal Aid Office. Good luck!
2006-07-28 12:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by lilolme_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your ex and my ex are the same person. if he's like my ex, hes just full of smoke. BUT make a record of everything he says. anything that makes you uncomfortable, write it down. and date it. if youre able, move away from him as far as you can. if he has visitation rights, then you can only move so far, but still, go as far as you can. and the best thing you can do---- BE HAPPY. going back to court, fighting with him, that just feeds his ego. But at the same time, if you have enough proof to get a restraining order, definitely do that. But if you can be happy just you and your kids, or better yet, if you fall in love with someone else--- thats the best thing you can do. he wont be able to stand it. him knowing that you dont need him for anything--- thats an awesome feeling for you to have. he might have scared you the whole time you and he were together, and i know what thats like. but once you get on your own two feet and are happy, you win. and if you can find someone and fall in love again, that like winning the lottery.
2006-07-28 12:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by tonysdoll815 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
file a Police report get documented evidence if possible , keep you cell phone handy advice your local police dept of this matter get a restraining order talk to the prosecutors office remember there are laws that protect you but you need to be aware that if he bend on destroying himself there isn't much the law can do time is on his side keep in mind the stalking laws some violation maybe misdemeanors but stalking is a felony in very state of the union. I would consider relocating not easy to do at times and never forget to be aware of you surroundings don't let him or any man bully you into submission be strong and use your head
2006-07-28 12:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by aldo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can put a restraining order against him. If he violates the restraining order he can go to jail. You call the police and tell them that he has threatened your life as well as your children's life. He sounds like he is just trying to scare you but it is better to be cautious and make sure the authorities know what is going on
2006-07-28 12:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by alwyzn2somthn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order and tell someone,not just here, but people in your community! He is abusing you and the kids and making your life hell. He is in need of mental help. The more people that know what he is doing,the better,in case he does try something. Then ppl will know him and what he is trying to do to you and your kids. He is sick and needs to be held accountable for his actions.
2006-07-28 13:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order and call the police, if possible record him saying these things. Have you told your bf about the threats? I will pray for you and your family. Good luck.
2006-07-28 12:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by brandiwhine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the nearest courthouse and get a Civil Protection Order. You will have to go to a hearing but once it is granted, he can not come within 500 feet of you or your family for 5 years. If he does, he goes to jail.
2006-07-28 14:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by stacilynn26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him see him in court and I'd take all the proof of his threats and give it to the judge, including the copies that I already gave to the police and I'd show the judge the RO I got against him too. I'd call his bluff.
2006-07-28 12:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to report this to the police and tape the conversation, he need not to pick on you, he needs to accept the divorce and leave you alone. Try to always have someone around - if it is possible move closer to family but please make a police report now before it is too late.
2006-07-28 12:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by devika h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋