My husband want's sex every night. I don't have that kind of sex drive. How should I deal with this and not hurt his feelings. Is it even normal? He was a virgin and IO was his first. Three years later and his want for sex doesn't change.
2006-07-28 04:14:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are probably a lot more factors involved than only the ones you listed. Regardless, the most important thing is to keep an open line of communication between you and your husband. Otherwise, you risk feeling resentment towards him for a problem he didn't even know about. Tell him what you're feeling and make sure to tell him that you appreciate his wanting you every night.
You may not have the same sex drive for many reasons. It may be because you have a medical condition. This does happen with women because we have a delicate hormonal balance, so if you are concerned, check with your doctor.
Are there problems related to your relationship? Maybe you're not attracted to him as much as you used to be, or maybe you feel that your sex life has become too mundane.
Consider more specifically why you are concerned about your sex life. What do you want to happen? Do you want him to have less of a drive or you to have more?
2006-07-28 04:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by c00kie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So ur saying is a bad thing!!??!!?!?..some grls out there would envy you. If not just ask. I know i was like that, and part was that a male sex drive is in full force in his early yrs. Women on the other hand is the opposite. At this point in the relationship is where all the problems start, and it's where separation occour. Men get frustrated and now adays get on line to find someone to fulliy that need. Women get jeluous and ask why? Well DUH!!...a realtionship needs to grow at this point if you dont wanna tell him but dont stop there. The reason I use to get frutrated at my ex was because she would say no, but would not try to solve the problem or give and idea to the solution. It would be one of those things where i would have to suckit up. The hell with that!!!! Let some one eles do the sucking up no?...
The whole thing is be honest but try to helping out. If that means explore togheter, or give him some lead way than thats what u have to do. Let me know how it works out..
2006-07-28 04:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by marine_arty155 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey......I understand that YOU may not be as into it as he is, but you really should make an effort to never turn your husband down. Think of how that crushes his ego when his own wife won't even satisfy him...seriously, I think its a shame for a wife to turn her husband down...I made the choice long ago I would not turn mine down unless there were serious outstanding circumstances that were present, and since I"ve made that choice...our sex life has grown enormously, he does everything in his power to make sure it is more enjoyable for me, I'm talking 5 or 6 times MORE enjoyable than what he gets...IF ya know what I mean..... but bottom line....the sex act its self last what? 10 minutes if you're not really into it? Whats 10 minutes out of your life if it means you're husband isn't lookin anywhere else to find satisfaction?
2006-07-28 05:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has that sex drive, is the way he is. If you have a lower sex drive is not nice to try to blame it on him. Everybody is different, and have different rythms. Better talk to him and try to get into an understanding, without dimishing each other drives. There should be a middle point where both can enjoy each other without feeling victimized.
2006-07-28 04:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by Carlos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not unnatural in any way to want sex every day. Some people just have a higher sex drive than others. Maybe if you were to tell him what turned you on, what you found sexually stimulating, he could do that and you would want to have sex more often.
2006-07-28 05:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by mischievousred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, let him know what you are feeling. Find out what he is feeling, (does he want to have sex because he thinks you do, or he feels this is how you show your feelings for someone. Or perhaps he just has an active sex drive)
Be open with him, if you can't talk about things you can't fix them.
2006-07-28 04:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No shame in having a high sex drive, my boyfriend wants it every night and i don't so I help him with other other ways to finish, hand etc
2006-07-28 04:26:51 · answer #7 · answered by devika h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says he is the abnormal one? Are you ok? How old are the two of you? Is it possible you are suffering from depression and don't realize it? Are you getting the big O from him? Lots of questions left to be answered. And you were quite vague. Give more information and get better answers. Good luck.
2006-07-28 04:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by waterfowlwidowmaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky that he wants to have sex with you all the time. So, Honey, stop whining, spread your legs and let him ride. Enjoy it while you can, it usually last just a few minutes.
2006-07-28 04:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband wants it daily too - but he loves affection; kissing, hugging and cuddling and that counts as sex to him so it works out good for me! It's a good thing that he wants it from you so much - be glad that he loves you and wants to share something sacred.
2006-07-28 04:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋