Have you ever been telling someone your music interests and they immediately butt-in with their laundry list of "underground, super-secret" bands? Or when you are talking about a specific band and they start rattling on about "they were good on that album but that other album sucked"?
Example: I'm listening to my iPod in my car, the past few songs that have played were Taking Back Sunday, Fall Out Boy, and All-American Rejects. So my friend in my car says, "Oh man have you ever heard of 'Gorilla Jumpsuit', 'Three Marbles of Insanity', ect.? (I made those names up, but you get the point) They were out WAY before these bands, before "emo" was cool and popular. I was listening to them back in middle school, but these new bands just suck."
What is this need to feel superior by quoting obscure bands from the past, or 'underground' albums from artists who are popular now? You just come off sounding like a dick. Stop it.
2006-07-28 03:59:23 · 6 answers · asked by craftman 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No Justin, the problem is that the second I admit I like a "mainstream" band I get lectured by some music-snob about tons of garage band that suck.
If they will hate a band simply because they are popular, WHY should I listen to their opinion on music? Because it's obviously not the music they are interested in, it's the 'underground' culture.
2006-07-28 04:19:57 · update #1
shortbus (fitting name): Those are not the only bands I listen to. That was merely showing a sampling of what had been playing recently. I'm not going to break my own rules and tell you all of the 'non-MTV' music I listen to, but I can assure you that is not the problem here. I'm 21 years old, not 14, I've acquired my own tastes sans MTV/radio (I don't even listen to radio what do you think the iPod is for?)
2006-07-28 04:23:02 · update #2
you pretty much answered your question within your question....people as a whole want to be superior. no one likes to think that theyre mediocre or just average. its just like anyone being better at a sport or being the smartest kid in class....everyone tries to find the one thing that they think theyre better at than everyone else. people use music for the same reason. if they have a list of bands no one has heard of, they think theyre the number 1 fan or that they care about music more than you do.
its all about low self esteem and ego....if they mention a band they know youve never heard of, their ego grows just a little bit.
believe me, i have plenty of friends just like that. all you need to do it be like "nope, never heard of them" and then talk about something else. dont feed their ego or it will get worst.
besides, everyone knows the mars volta is the best band in the world... ;)
2006-07-28 04:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by Lola P 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The reason why people do this, is because they already know about these bands, and they're pretty certain that you have no idea about them, so it's almost like making a public spectacle of you: in short, making you look bad makes them look good.
He might not even know that much about music, or only knows about a certain genre of music, that doesn't make him a music guru. He probably just noticed that the music you listen to is mostly mainstream emo pop rock, and thought to himself, 'he/she should really start searching for more original/underground bands, i could suggest a few' but what came out is a pompous, arrogant response that just sounds more like an insult to you. he might be frustrated that he can't have a conversation about the bands he likes, because you haven't listened to them.
maybe you could take it upon yourself to find new music out for yourself instead of relying on mainstream radio and MTV to show you who to listen to... try out independent radio stations that stream online like KEXP.org (amazing) and myspace also is useful for listening to a few songs of a band you just heard to test them out. you'd be amazed at what's out there, i found so many amazing bands i'd never got the chance to hear on KEXP, and now their music is in my permanent collection.
so don't hate your friend because he's actin' like a jerk, learn more about music and you guys might have something to talk about!
2006-07-28 04:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by shortbus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you finding for an answer? Or the thank you to rant? yet i'm keen approximately that. My difficulty is that none of my friends will hear to something new. occasion, i chanced in this truly large music that none of them had ever heard, and once I performed it for them they have been like, "This sucks" after in basic terms listening to some seconds of it.
2016-10-01 04:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, its not them being superior, perhaps your not secure in your own choices and feel inferior? If your friend didn't tell you about "gorilla jumpsuit" you might miss out on something you may really like. It's called sharing.
2006-07-28 04:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your musical taste are parochial and puerile, while I, the stunning sophisticate that I am, have already been through and rejected musical trends that haven't even made the scene.
Yes, please stop it.
2006-07-28 04:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all ppl do that, some ppl respect other ppl and their musical tastes
2006-07-28 04:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋