There is a man that I have been friends for for 14 years and we lost contact maybe 8 years ago. We never dated but we were good friends and often flirted with each other. After high school we would hang out and eventually we would kiss, make out, and grind but never anything further. Now 3 months ago we ran into each other and we have been hanging out like the good ole days. We like each other, but we never talk about it. I have not been with a man in almost 4 years and everytime we are together I cannot bring myself to talk to him about it us. 2 weeks ago I spent the nite at his house and we ended up just kissing on each other. I didn't give it up. so yesterday I went to visit him and he had a fading hickey on his neck and I felt awkward and hurt. Later that nite I went to visit him at work and he was looking at me with these eyes that make me melt. We did not talk about it. Today is his birthday and he wants me to come over all day. But now what shall I do, now that he had the hickey
2006-07-28 03:52:35 · 6 answers · asked by djzlyric 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Since it has been so long for me being with a guy, I feel like I am a kid again! I am so nervous when I get around him.
2006-07-28 04:17:17 · update #1
Your just gonna have to come out and ask him. Go ahead and let him come over toninght and tell him after hes there you two need to talk. Tell him you just want to get in straight in your head what kind of relationship you two have. Ask him what he expects out of it? If you wants more out of it? You have to communicate your feeelings to him or your never find out the answers you seek. If he does want a relationship with you and only you then I'd bring up the fading hickey and ask him if hes finished with that. Do not keep on about it after you get your answer leave it alone. Men hate to be nagged constantly about the samething over and over again.
2006-07-28 03:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by bree30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start asking him questions. Invite him OUT for coffee or to a restaurant on his birthday. Don't go to his house. Ask the questions: for instance, "Is there someone else, or is something wrong, this feels like a one way friendship." If you don't like the answers tell him.
Intimate and trusted friends should be honest with one another and share feelings.
2006-07-28 11:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lynda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man is really into you he makes it known. You guys are really just friends with some benefits. If he was really into you he wouldn't have had that hickey. He would have been with you the night he got it.
2006-07-28 10:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, you all ready know that he has another girl lined up. you can go and see him, but remember what you're up against. first, start dating him. go out not just to his house. after a few dates, you'll find out where your relationship is headed. if you want to ask him about dating you exclusively, then ask. but just don't give it up so easily, for the sake of competition. this one, right now he has the upper hand. so, if he really interested in you, he would comply your wish.
2006-07-28 11:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy's not emotionally available to you, and it sounds like you're emotionally attached to him. Don't go, b/c you'll ge hurt in the end. Of course, if you feel like you could totally handle sex without the possibility of commitment, and him definitely having sex with other women, then go for it.
2006-07-28 10:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by LSD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to talk about it with him..let him know how your feelings..He might just feel the same way about you..maybe he thought you weren't interested so he went out with someone else...but the best thing is communication...
2006-07-28 10:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by Dorkzaresexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋