I have been in this relationship and I have recently found out that the person was unfaithful most of the time. I have had girls call my phone and tell me things I really didn't care to hear. I wasted 4 years of my college life dedicating myself to someone that claims they love me. We have been through all steps a relationship can got thorugh. Tough thing is we were best friends before anything. I have finally ended the relationship, but this is the only person I had sex with and loved. They are now claiming they will change, but still won't admit their wrong doings. How can I forgive someone that won't even admit their mistakes? How can I trust someone who has betrayed me for years? Is trying to make it work in the future a terrible idea?
2006-07-28 03:44:44 · 15 answers · asked by *prettynpink* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's time to move on. When you openly admit it to yourself that it's not what you want then it's time to go. First of all he didn't think about your feelings when he was cheating while you were trying to better yourself. A real man would stand beside his chick and make sure that she does what she needs, and not be looking for someone on the side. As much as hurts, and you may be losing a good friendship it's time to go. You can do better and will do better.
2006-07-28 03:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by jad26 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is a really hard question because you do have so many feelings for him, but I think you already know that he will not change who he is especially since he wont even admit what he did. I think that if you take him back he will just feel like he can walk all over you again. Even though it will be hard for you I think you should stay away from him, even as a friend, if you were truly best friends he would of never done all that to you. How could you ever trust him again as a friend much less a boyfriend?
2006-07-28 03:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by jenz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest red flag is him not admitting to what he's done. You cant fix something until you admit its broken. With this attitude he will not change. You've already given this relationship 7 yrs. Dont you think if he was going to step up to the plate he should have done it by now ? Him saying he will change once you leave means nothing. Trying to make it work is a terrible idea.
2006-07-28 03:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your trust is betrayed it is always a difficult thing especially when you love hat person but as far as your situation goes I would say enough is enough.You have been selfless enough and I personally think you have gone beyond the call of duty.It is time that you love yourself a little more and stop beating this dead horse of a relationship that seems to me the commitment and faithfulness is all one sided.Do yourself a favor and get rid of this loser.Think to yourself is it really worth it,.all the hurt,all the pain,all the disappointment.Its your call,what are you really worth? is this what you think you deserve?
2006-07-28 04:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by RYAN G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust him. He will not change most likely and this would still be causing problems at some time in the future. You need to get on with your life. Don't waste another minute. It takes time to heal. There will be a good faithful person in the future.
2006-07-28 04:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by Donna M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to forgive a person that want admit their mistakes. I fel if you can't admit your mistakes then your not worth trying to get back with. Make that person have to earn your trust back. If he's betrayed you before don't think he want do it again. Maybe, you should just let the past be the past.
2006-07-28 03:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what your heart tells you. It is almost impossible to trust someone who wont admit what they have done. Work on that first. Tell him you need to know the truth to be able to get past the past. Then work on trust. If you really want it to work it will take a while. But, love is worth fighting for. I guess the question is, do you love him enough to work on it?
2006-07-28 03:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~Jeni~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strike one, and then move on. If that person had any respect for you they would have stopped doing it long ago. Now that they are caught, they want to change. There are plenty of people out there, so don't bother with the trash of the world. Let the trash do trash and make their own children.
2006-07-28 03:54:49 · answer #8 · answered by Milton.Cogswell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should move on. First loves can be difficult to get over but we all have in one sense or another. He cheated on you for most of your relationship an d trust is key. Good luck
2006-07-28 03:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats so sad you put every thing on the line for this guy and so many years..for nothing..if you evr forgive him and take him back you are just showing him you are prapared to firgive him. and he will do it again. because you forgave him the first time..its a sad situation..but you know as a womans instinct..you must move on..itll be hard to start again. but you must look forward and leave the past behind you. i wish you all the luck.
2006-07-28 04:09:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋