Me and my husband arn't having sex.He says tat his penis isn't as hard as it needs to be.this is true?

Answer 1

It could be. I strongly suggest he seek professional help. It could be very serious.

Here are some things couples can do.

Missionary requires less of an erection than most positions. For men who get a partial erection, certain positions require less of an erection than others. Missionary requires less of an erection than most positions, and experimenting with the woman's leg position may help too; try pulling the legs up towards the body to "open" the vagina. Female on top positions are a poor choice because she can accidentally bend the penis. Rear entry may be difficult because it makes the vagina tighter, but he may be able to make this work by holding the base of the penis as he moves. Pulling the skin of the penis back tight (grasp mid shaft and pull towards the base) can help stiffen the penis; he can do this during rear entry, or she can do it during missionary.
Another possibility is what we call pseudocourse. Pseudocourse can be done with or without an erection, and it's the closest thing to intercourse possible without penetration. The man lies on his back, legs together. The woman is above as if they were going to have intercourse with her on top. His penis is laid against his body pointing towards his chin, so that the underside is facing up. The woman lowers herself so that his penis comes into contact with her vulva, between her outer lips. She then either pushes against him (as if thrusting), or she can slide up and down (parallel to the bed) the length of his penis. (Greater movement is possible with some erection, but even without she can slide some.) Since this is basically her clitoris rubbing against the most sensitive part of his penis, it's very possible for both of them to reach climax this way. Changing the point of contact and the amount of movement will change the intensity of the stimulation for both of them, making it possible to find a method which brings them to orgasm at about the same time. If he climaxes before her, she should start farther down the shaft; if she climaxes first, she needs to be more on the glans. Pseudocourse is more than just physically enjoyable, it has most of the emotional contact which many find missing in manual or oral sex.

And of course oral and manual sex are both possible without an erection; stimulation of the glans and frenum will be most effective. Sucking on the glans will also feel good, and it might coax a bit of an erection. During manual sex, a lubricant will prevent soreness, and actually intensify the stimulation. Most water based lubricants made for intercourse dry out pretty fast, but Vaseline (which should never be introduced into the vagina) will work well, as do silicone based lubricants. Finally, an easy way to bring a man without an erection to climax is to apply a vibrator to the glans.

Answer 2

Could be. There are medications for that, now adays.
Men can do this from time to time. Is he a smoker? His age?

He should see a dr. as there are other medical conditions that could cause this, such as diabetes.

And just because he can't have intercourse does't mean that the two of you can't be intimate.
He probably feels less of a man. Assure him that you love him and that you will work on this together.

Answer 3

It's not that your husband is having an affair. I don't know how old is your husband but my husband sometime faces the same problem also. My husband is in his mid 30s and sometime have way through, his could get soft...It don't happen all the the time but I suggest that both of you could start with some foreplay??? It might help...

Answer 4

My question to you is, what are you doing to turn him on? You might need to try something new and exciting in bed to help him get it up. Ask him his fantasy and if its doable then do it for him. Leave him little notes through out the day. Work of all his senses touch, smell, taste, sight, sound.

Answer 5

Sounds like a lame reason. Might want to keep an eye on him and see if he's screwing around.

Answer 6

It could be erectile dysfunction...it's very common and can be treated. He will have to go see the doctor though.

Answer 7

both of u should see a doctor, together to discuss this problem

Answer 8

Ok he might be heaving problems, you know he might be impotant, but my advice is find out for yourself.

Answer 9

Tell him to see his doctor about this

Answer 10

i think he is just telling u that because he is having sex with some body else