I was just wondering. No haters and I should love the baby anyway, please lol.
2006-07-28 03:12:51 · 16 answers · asked by BarbieQ 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It's not dumb- it's a normal question. Thanks.
2006-07-28 03:16:11 · update #1
Adoption sounds reasonable. But isn't it like you have to have a super paid job and so on?
2006-07-28 03:23:51 · update #2
I didn't say it's what I want to do.. And if so, I wouldn't give a darn about what people around me might think.
2006-07-28 03:26:43 · update #3
Adoption is the best option. There are so many children who need good homes. Another way (if you want to give birth) is to be artificially inseminated with sperm from someone the race you want.
2006-07-28 03:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by mommy of 2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only practical way I could think of to make that possible (other than adoption) is through artificial insemination. But my question would be, why would you marry a white guy if you wanted a mixed baby? (Or, to put it another way, why would you want a mixed baby when you know you can't get one "naturally" when you're married to a white guy?) If I was your husband and you suggested anything other than adoption, I'd be seriously offended. Usually if you marry someone and are not infertile, it is THEIR baby you want. The tone of your question makes it sound like you'd only accept a mixed baby, which you already know you can't have with your husband. There's a serious problem in that thinking. It's OK to adopt other babies, but not to the absolute exclusion of having them with your husband unless there's some very good reason for it.
2006-07-28 10:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by medrecgal1973 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you white, as well? Then the only way you'll have a mixed baby is to go outside your marriage & have an affair with someone of another race until you conceive. Would you then tell that man he is to be a father? And what if the biological father of the child wants to be a part of its life? Will you allow him visitation, etc? He could even insist that the child carry his last name. How would your white husband feel about what you had to do to get a mixed race baby? Could your marriage withstand infidelity? raising a child by a man who obviously didn't father it? can you handle the public scorn that comes to people with mixed race babies? There are a lot of tough questions to ask yourself about this. Personally, I hope you wouldn't do that. Not being a hater, but I don't think you have a clue what you will have to go through & would it be fair to the child as it grows up? it's becoming somewhat more accepted, but a lot of people hate to see mixed race children & the women who gave birth to them. Can you endure that? Can you put an innocent child through that? It's not just a matter of wanting a little baby here, hun. I sincerely hope you don't do that - have a nice little baby with your hubby & let it go.
2006-07-28 10:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd question the reasons why you want a mixed race baby. I'm mixed race and the question caused me to raise an eyebrow. There can be legitimate reasons or reasons of the heart. But if you want one like you'd like a breed of dog, because they're 'cute', that's uncool. One thing I'd suggest is that if you do adopt a mixed race baby, you need to know people of the race that isn't your own. I'm assuming you mean black and white. But if you're husband isn't into adopting or letting you get impregnated by someone else, there's always your grandkids! LOL!
2006-07-28 10:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mama Loc's 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand this question. Are you mixed and you want your baby to be like you. Otherwise I don't see why you would want a 'mixed' baby.
You need to talk to children, teenagers, and adults that are considered mixed. You may change your mind. Personal experience. It's not fun. The black kids don't think your black enough. The white kids don't think your'e white. You don't look like your parents. And you don't know where to fit in. which is very important for children of all ages.
A baby is a gift. You should wish for a healthy baby!
2006-07-28 10:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by JulyBaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's more to raising a mixed kid than them having tanner skin than you. They are a different race with a whole set of problems and obstacle and stereotypes to work with. What's so exotic about having a mixed kid that appeals to you? I can say this cause I am mixed myself (white mom, black dad). I'm not trying to deter you from having a mixed kid, but I don't understand your motivations. Is it because a bunch of your friends have mixed kids? Is it because Angelina Jolie is raising different raced kids?
2006-07-28 11:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by curious_maya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think wishing for your baby to look a certain way is selfish. I think a baby you make with the man you love is a blessing itself and having a healthy baby is what you should be wishing for.
2006-07-28 10:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a Simple question baby but i dnt wana answer here , just swap or i can do the needful...
2006-07-28 10:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why didn't you marry an ethnic man?? My children are mixed but that doesn't even come in to my mind, just that their my kids and i love them.
2006-07-28 10:16:56 · answer #9 · answered by Wish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you're not white and he is...thats what you are going to get is a mixed baby. Cant change it.
2006-07-28 10:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by spaceytracey3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋