scenario: you meet and shave a great fling for one month, then he who is married finally hits it off with his lover of ten years, then he divorces his wife of 20 years, now after having had his wife bring up his children and work everyday of her life, he now is rich and his lover stays at home (twice the size he had given his wife) no matter what he has done, you still have this great attraction towards him and text him once in a while or phone, his response is minimum but when he speaks to you he still calls you sexy and you stil melt at the sound of his voice, your not obsessed with him, you carry on with your life, you dont stalk him, but your so scared of commiting just incase his current relationship might end, help me help a friend, is this love and is feelings as strong as hers nonsense or what do you think of this guy??
2006-07-28 03:11:54 · 12 answers · asked by mercia b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This guy seems to get what ever he wants...and once the wife was out of the picture he choose someone else other than the one month fling person...so what's there to wait for? Go out and make your own dreams come true...the best you can hope for with this guy is a fling, and there will be the opportunity...but look how long his current wife had to wait to get her turn at the brass ring...your wasting your time while he is enjoying his.
2006-07-28 03:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are in love with the thrill of it not with the person. I think if you and him were an item, you will get sick and tired of him. I think you should leave him alone. You are putting your life on hold for someone else whereas you can be investing your time with someone who has no commitments and can concentrate on only you. Also, I think this of all women who get involved with married men, either they have a low self esteem and don't think that they are worthy and true love can't be obtained or has been hurt really bad before in other relationships and try to avoid being hurt again. By messing with a married man, the woman feels she has a sense of control and protecting her feelings because at least she knows there is someone else. I don't know who has hurt you before, but don't give up on love. There is someone out there for you that won't be the miserable person that you obviously had before and will take care of you with no strings attached. You have to really believe and have faith that the right person will come along. You don't have to be the other woman and you will eventually hurt yourself as well as this man's wife. I will pray for you to receive the right person for you and may your heart be healed. Good luck and take care.
2006-07-28 03:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen I don't think you should wait around for him, let it be, you are worth way more then anything in the world. You should never live your life for someone else. You can't keep doing this to yourself. You need to look forward don't stay in the moment, I know it was wonderful when you were with him, but god has something better instore for you, but you are never going to see it if you keep holding on to your pass. Just remember this: no one is better then you, and you deserve better then anyone else.
2006-07-28 04:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by wcenice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a catch I'd throw back in the sea. If your friend has any dignity she will give up this relationship and not waste anymore time on this guy.
2006-07-28 03:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by On the upside 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say who cares if he calls you up someday...sounds like a loser to me. Move on with your life and quit melting at the sound of someone' voice who is obviously a dog.
2006-07-28 03:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by jen52978 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she wants to worry about someone cheating on her and feeling like she is never good enough? If he cheated with her he will do it to her. Drop him. And it does sound like she is obsessed. Move on with life and get out there and have fun!
2006-07-28 03:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by diannabishop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this person who is "in love" is this guy's back-up, just in case neither of his serious other relationships work out.
Is that who this person wants to be in love with?
2006-07-28 03:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by T Time 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's going to stay with the new girl until he dies. Otherwise, he'd make her work.
2006-07-28 03:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too long a scenario. dont have time to read all this. summarise!
2006-07-28 03:17:35 · answer #9 · answered by koolmabash 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is real confusing, but i think u r obsessed with him.
2006-07-28 03:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋