Is someone there who can help me???

Question

My mind is not allowing me to do what i want to do. Whenever i try to do it situations come up which makes me upset and cry. And my mind goes in another world. Whenever i think that now everything is alright and i can do it. At the same moment i get fail in things which i have already done. sometimes i just go on regreting for not having friends who can understand me or there is no one to help or just be with me whatever the situation is i dont want that they should fight for me or spend whole time with me but a person whom i can depend on that this person will always be there with me and in front of whom i can cry.
oh sorry if i have just waisted your time but if someone understands what
exactly i want and what i can do to solve my problem please help me.

Answer 1

Honey, it is gonna be hard for any one to understand you. You don't even understand yourself. You need to do some serious thinking and figure out what you want.

Answer 2

I totally understand thats how I felt all the time. You see I got diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder when I was in High School. So everytime I would Have some feelings about something, or an opinion somebody through it back in my face. Eventually it felt like everything that came through my mind happend. From my best friends death Junior year, to my friend Getting rapped at a party, it was horrible I would have these thoughts and I would just push them away cuz I just didnt want to cry, and nobody would believe me anyways. Never let anybody tell you that crying is a weakness. You cry whenever you want. If it makes you feel better. Then do it. You can also try find a good positive hobby, like Rollerblading, or take a dance class. Just take care of yourself. and try not to be down. Take Care

Answer 3

Slowly slowly, one thing at a time. It is difficult for me to figure what is your problem from what you have typed. Too many things going there for me to figure out. You need to be clearer before people can understand and help you/

Do try to do anything one step at a time. Understand that things often do not go smoothly for everyone. There is always problems. There is often people who will makes things difficult for us. It is same for all of us.

If you are troubled, just focus on the present. The past has already gone (and our memories are frequently distorted so try not to be bothered by the past), the future has yet to come. Focus on now.

Also no matter how you think you are in a bad stituation, there are hundred of thousands of people who are worse off than you. The fact you are able to type out your problems on the internet already proves this. There are people who right now, are slowly dying of hunger or incurable diseases, or are watching their loved ones being killed or wondering if tomorrow they are going be able to get something to eat etc. No matter what you think, you are already in a much better stituation. Make full use of your life. Don't give up.

Answer 4

Hiya!! K...yourmind is yours alone.. you are human bcoz of yr mind..Anyway... watch the movie 'ella enchanted' and it may help :-)
K.. just a fw of life's lessons..
1) Nobody can help you but yourself
2) You dont actually NEED anyone.. its just that you willl feel that way bcoz u WANT someone.. which is perfectly normal, btw!.. every1 wants sum1,.. doesnt mean every1 finds that sum1!
3) Have no regrets... life's too short.. make the most of each moment you can coz it will never come back
4) You havent wasted anybodys time with this q coz if it was a waste of time they shouldnt have wasted their time answering.. n if they did, it was their choice..
So cheer up.. n learn to live!

K.. I think I can identify.. Life used to be good.. then it bcame terrible.. then it was good again.. and then bcame a bit bad.. Now..I dont have any1 I can talk to... tho I keep givin every1 advice.. Im the only med student in a hospital with no classmates, (I had a class and friends upto a few months ago) the only ppl I can talk to r docs way older than me about studies (except 1 for 6weeks till last week when I had to leave and now I cant go back coz he'll be like- ''pleasantly surprised but at the same time ''y r u here again?")- n the others all think I wouldnt want to talk 'fun stuff' n guys who try to hit on me till they finally get that Im not interested n then they stop talking.. and others who are just acquaintances.. Every day I see ppl in colleges hanging out, partyin, even ppl Im with - but they all think Im an 'innocent kid' who wont party.. or that Im way too good to hang with them.. or that I have too many ppl to notice them.. its called life.. you learn to live with it. Hey - Im as confused as you are.. but hey= C'est la vie.. cheer up.. every1 goes thru it.. we will too :-)

Answer 5

Before you try finding a person in front of whom you can cry, maybe you should try to find out why you're crying in the first place.

The feeling of failure before you can concentrate on something is from low self-esteem.

You're depressed. You need to talk to someone. It actually might be easier (and make you feel better) if you talk to someone you don't know.

Don't worry about failing. Everyone does. No one does anything right the first time. And nothing is as important as you think it is. Recognize little things for what they are and don't let them get you down. But most importantly, find someone to talk to and unload some of this stuff so you don't have to carry it all yourself.

Answer 6

You need to spend some time alone (maybe the weekend) with no television, no radio, no mp3 or ipod, no phone, basically no communication with anything. Then sit down and decide what it is you want in life and what kind of friend you want to be. Once you know what kind of friend you want to be, you will know how you will act. This will influence people around you and draw similar people towards you. You need to surround yourself with positive and dependable people. Surround yourself with people that act and behave the way you envision yourself doing. And don't let the world get you down. It's a tough place out there, but everything you survive makes you stronger. Good Luck

Answer 7

Hey you guys are just making it worse!(the guys at thr top)Don't you understand that she feels weird enough?Will in my opinion,go to a chatter room and don't put your real name or say anything about your self(name,address,email,nick name in other places)so you don't feel not open.So just be open and don't be too shy,sooner or later you WILL find someone who shares the same hobbies and haves fun with you,and most important that person wont make weird silent moments with you.And sometimes I do like that, and some people say am weird Caz I talk when they are silent,but I am just making a weird moment go away...so the point is don't care if someone told you that your acting weird(Caz you really arent,they are the ones acting weird),and i hope that when you find someone,that person can solve your REAL problems i.e. (the stuff that you didnt tell us)Anyways,when I go chatting,I really meet nice girlfriends who I don't have weird silent moments and just share the same interests!so go chat and meet friends I mean that's the point of chatting right?

Answer 8

I dont really think there is a way to "solve" your problem, but there is a way to help your problem. im not a doctor but i have had some similar situations and the best thing i can tell you is to try to relax about the situations. it seems that you end up putting so much stress of wanting to do something a certain way that your mind goes into over drive. try to take it easy. let things happen dont force them.

and you are not wasting our time. thats why we are all here sweetie:)

Answer 9

Faith and love only comes to those who god favors.

A year ago my ex-girlfriend and I were drinking and fighting. We both had been sober in AA before, but we started drinking together.

Anyway, she left me almost 1 year to the day today. We both went back to AA. Because she's a pretty girl lots of people rallied around her to support. All the men wanted to sleep with her, and some of them convinced her to do it.

She's sober, happy, and has a new boyfriend - my old sponsor. Go figure huh?

I went back the same day. No one shook my hand. No one said hello. No one welcomed me except during the obligitory 'hi bill' at all AA meetings.

I have not made a single friend. The people who I thought were my friends, are hers. Many of the men I used to hang out with have either dated her or tried to.

Tommorow, the her actualy anniversary, I have decided to hang myself at right around the time she left.

God does play favorites. Maybe god doesn't like you either.

Answer 10

hey dear friend..don't be upset..it is life..u will have to face these kinds of situations..i think the main problem is with ur thoughts..da,,you may be someone in the world..but for someone u r the world.when u take a decision that u really wanna do..then go for it,but be sure that u r ready to face everything and is bold enough to take its responsibility..come-on dear go ahead..cheerup..u could do something different that no one in this world could..believe me..nothing could go wrong for a nice person like you..dear dont be so much upset about what other people say..it is ur life and u have to live it..just care about only those who are concerned about you and about whoom you are concerned....friends wont come to u s..we have to go for them.i think u r not realising the friends around u.the one whoom you r looking forward..who loves u,care u,to whoom who can share everything..hihiiiii that is the dream of everyone..and God will help u for finding that..one thing also..Hunting for love never brings the right partner..it comes when we are not expecting it..i understand your fealings coz..even i was or 'm in such a state..
with love

Answer 11

Somethings the solution is in the approach. There is an old joke about how do you eat an elephant. The answer is one bite at a time. You need to set yourself more achievable goals, Do you lose sight of your ultimate goal, but ask yourself, "What can I achieve today?" or "What can I achieve in the next hour?" By setting up achievable goals, you will be happier with yourself and closer to your ultimate goal. I do not promise that you will reach your goals, but you will enjoy the journey more.