my older sis she got married and have a baby girl the proplem is when she come back at my family home she started to say bad words about dad and about me 2 the proplem is so big that i dont know how to say it ... so can someone help me !!!!
2006-07-28 02:48:58 · 20 answers · asked by toleen s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
darlin, muster up the courage and sit her down, tell her straight out exactly how she makes you feel when she says those things.
If she truly loves you, she'll quit this could even lead to a good sister to sister talk and reveal the real problem.
Just be there for her.
2006-07-28 02:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by jelli_bean_36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should first come to the details that y is she saying like this, as she is ur sister, and just now she has given birth to a baby, it can be many things like,
1. postpregancy depression
2. something which u have done in past
3. her present life with husband is no good and she cannot express her problem
4. too much of work load after having a baby
5. talk to her and ask her what is the problem
all the best
2006-07-28 02:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by cc20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really wish you wrote even just an idea of whats the problem all about... but anyway talk to your sis and ask her why she saying all those things.. maybe she having problem with her hubby and she got jealous because you are still with your father.. but just think about this... even your sister dont have the right to say bad words to you and especially to your father.. thats disrespect to parents so maybe she really need someone help too.. maybe you can give it to her.. give her big hug and tell her you love her no matter what... whatever maybe she is still your sister and nothing can change that...:)
2006-07-28 03:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by justme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with her and ask why she is saying these things and being so hostile!
also remind her that whatever she says about you'r dad and you , that she has the same blood running through her viens ," The apple never falls to far from the tree"
good luck & peace
2006-07-28 02:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your fathers home correct? He should stand up like a man and take charge of the situation himself. If she is directing the comments at you , tell her how it makes you feel when she talks like that and walk away. you don't need to yell, shout or carry on. Just walk away and let her talk to herself, don't give her the satisfaction. If this is your house, just keep the door locked from now on and don't allow her in your home!!!
2006-07-28 02:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real problem here is that your sister is not fully mature. Your family should try to isolate her for a few days or maybe for a week or two. Maybe she will understand that she has made mistakes.
2006-07-28 02:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by Radone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety u need to sit down and have a talk w/ ur sister-she is family ! and she needs to know how u feel,be honest w/ her and let her know u love her and u think what she is doing is hurting u and the family. if noone else will stand up for ur family,u need to . it will feel good,i have been there and done that and the ymay just respect you for it too.
2006-07-28 03:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by lonelyangel270 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody in this world can make you miserable or make you happy, unless you *open* up to receive it.
That is to say, if you don't *care*, you'll not be affected by any words or deeds.
Forget what you hear, and don't waste time thinking about negativities, because it just don't exist.
2006-07-28 02:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by Timeless - watcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sounds bad, if it was my own sister i think i would be able to talk to her but letters are always an easier way to deal with everything. hope that helps a little.
2006-07-28 02:52:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to her and if that does not work try to figure out a way to change the things she is saying around to where it is all in her mind.
2006-07-28 02:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by lspalletta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋