I was with my child's father for about 12 years, no proposal, no ring. I left him and he is now engaged to the girl he cheated on me with 7 years ago. I met a nice man this past january, we became official 4/26/06, and I broke up with him yesterday becuase he keeps accusing me of cheating and lying and flirting on myspace and with my child's father. When he constantly says hes still loves his ex (who is now married), he screams and yells at me and says that I am a constant f*ck up all the time. He says he will never get married and that is why nice guys don't get into relationships. I went from one extreme to the next. All I require is kindness and love, I am extremely loyal and faithful and just asked for a husband and a family. Now I am jaded and refuse to give my heart up anymore. What the hell??!!!
2006-07-28 02:45:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no dont give up on ur heart.-look there is someone out there for u and it doesnt matter what has happened in the past w/ other men,look foward,ok.
u r not a failure,the other men r for not realizing what a great person ur. these men know what thry lost in u and now htey wanna bring u dowm,dont let them. just go on w/ ur life and smile.
2006-07-28 02:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by lonelyangel270 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think after the first relationship you should have dated around for a bit, before gettin serious again. 12 years is a long time, can't imagine a person going that long, cheating, and getting married to the mistress. You aren't the one who is messed up though. They are (assuming everything you put here is accurate and not one sided) I have been labled 'nice guy', and never thought I would get married but that changed. And I had 3 serious relationships, and numerous dated women under my belt (no pun intended)
All these things take time, but don't let a couple of bad ones ruin it for ya.
2006-07-28 02:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with you, it seems. You are just describing a common human situation.
From your perspective, you are describing a relationship with an insecure person. But this is your perception of the situation. You describe a relationship where trust is not present. Thus, your decision to break up is probably correct.
My suggestion is for you to give yourself some time, with work and study (it is always good to learn new things). When everything is a bit more stable, it will probably be easier for you to find the "right" person.
2006-07-28 02:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by regis_cabral 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to do that to yourself. They have used you for their excuse for what they have done. You are bitter and angry right now which I would be to and refused to get hurt ever again. Trust me it is not how you want to spend the rest of your life, for you and your child. If your child's father treats you like a f--k up then stay away from him completely. Why put yourself through that. There is someone out there that can love you and your child, don't give up!
2006-07-28 02:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore all the tossy comments on here so far. Basically, pretty much everone in the world is a lying prick. If you operate under that assumption, you'll never be unpleasantly surprised.
2006-07-28 02:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to review the types of men you are interested in. Don't jump so fast! Stop settling for anyone who shows an interest in you and be content to wait for the right one. He should be courteous and kind to you right off the bat.
2006-07-28 02:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by a_latinalady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all i can say is that you haven't find yet the right person.our lives are full of challenges.we may feel that it is the end of the world or we are not born lucky.every person who is in this world has only one mission and that is to be "H-A-P-P-Y" if you feel so happy, you feel so fulfilled!some of us can find the real happiness with our partners and family but there are some people who wont be able to find the person who is really destined for them.it takes time for them to look for that person. i believe that every person is meant for someone unless you are really destined to be a single blessedness.but as of your case all you need to do is to pray and wait for the right person to come into your life...don't rush things...don't put a lot of pressure to yourself but instead pray for the right person and once you got him, i assure you, you will be one of the happiest person in this world.just wait for the right time
2006-07-28 03:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by trendycurly16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear about your situation, its hard to give you good advice because we could never fully understand the problem, just from your description on here so i would suggest doing some serious soul searching. maybe even going to therapy if you can afford it or even a psychic. i wasnt open to it at first, but a psychic helped me alot. if you find a good one, its not all about visions and past lives. mine just gave me insight into myself that i never would have realized on my own (mostly based on my birthchart)
just one persons suggestion.
2006-07-28 03:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really needed to vent that, didn't you??? It's OK hun. Just relax and take deep breaths. You got that off your chest, now just chill for a bit and enjoy life while you can!
its ok girl!
~pink_cowgirl~
2006-07-28 02:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by ♥xoxo♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you it is the men so do not get up set at your self be mad at them but try not to say or let your child here any cusing cause when she gets into school she might say it to teachers and then she could get suspended
2006-07-28 02:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋