Just curious.
2006-07-28 02:41:48 · 12 answers · asked by Ray 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you certainly can - although not for a *huge* length of time, it doesn't have to be constant obsession. In fact, I would say that the crazy, can't-stop-thinking-about you phase isn't really love - it's infatuation. Basically, ask yourself if the person you are with is essentially perfect: if the answer is yes, it isn't love yet. These are the stages, at least in my experience:
1. The Crazy Crush Phase
Everyone knows this one! Fast heartbeats, palms sweating, feeling like you could start flying - what most songs suggest that love is.
2. The Disillusionment Phase
After a while, if you truly get to know each other, you'll realize that the person isn't perfect. They'll have qualities you dislike, or will be missing qualities you want. This will not feel very good!
3. The Choosing Phase
Most people aren't aware of doing this, but this is when you deal with the disillusionment phase by either sticking with the person (which means you're heading into the "love" phase) or dumping the person.
4. The Love Phase
Assuming you choose the first option, here you are - in love! You'll still be riding a happier high than normal, but it probably won't be that hands-shaking obsession kind of experience that you should have gotten over in the crazy crush phase.
Of course, everyone is totally different, but this is something I see happening a lot.
A quote from the movie Captain Corelli's Mandolin really expresses it for me:
"When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No... don't blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two."
In other words, wait until the pretty blossoms drop off the branches and then see you're able to think about other things. *grins*
Happy lovin!
2006-07-28 02:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by ghost orchid 5 · 5⤊ 3⤋
If you just fell in love. No. Not for another 2 or 3 months. Then you'll get used to them. A lot of people break up after a year cause that initial feeling is gone. So enjoy it if you aren't into the longterm sort of thing.
2006-07-28 02:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by largegrasseatingmonster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can happen... If u stop thinking of that person for awhile, it doesnt mean u love that person any less... There are also times when we get into a difficult situation (like a problem), and we tend to set aside the people we love... still, it doesnt mean we love them any less... there are certain circumstances when we have to keep our minds out of it just for awhile so we can get to our other priorities. Love is in our hearts, not in our minds. :)
2006-07-28 02:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by joe_logs_a_co 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult but yes. There are times when I'm busy at work that I am able to to. But alas the love of my life is constantly on my mind. Sometimes I just daydream about her, other times worry. We are separated by many miles and only get to see each other on weekends. But just thinking of my lady fills my heart with good memories and peaceful feelings.
2006-07-28 02:46:56 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, do you love them and have them? Or do you love them and have to deal with not having them anymore?
If you love them and they are in your life day to day, then you can put your mind on whatever you have to do, at least for a little while.
I know when I'm dealing with a breakup (like now) I have a hard time thinking of anything else. It would be nice if I could think of something else.
Good luck
2006-07-28 02:46:49 · answer #5 · answered by tamitones1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do some fun things that you like to do or hang out with some friends. Give him some alone time if that is what he wants. But let him know that you will always be there for him when he needs you.
2016-03-27 03:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can fool yourself into thinking that you can...for a while anyway, you can try to force yourself to do things to keep your mind off that person .....or if you learn to meditate...it can become a breeze.. get a beginners book on meditating. Try the Library
2006-07-28 02:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't keep your mind off her/him . You must do something about it. Try to find out if that other person likes you or not , and if she/he likes you , you should be togheter , no doubt about it. If you don't do this, this person might stay in your mind forever.
2006-07-28 02:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by Radone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope
2006-07-28 02:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey the heart never forgets anything if ur truly in love and ur heart takes over and ur mind turns off-be happy and good luck
2006-07-28 02:47:09 · answer #10 · answered by lonelyangel270 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋