is anyone scared of giving birth? because im only 5 months pregnant im really scared already?

Answer 1

Dont be scared! You've got to trust the doctors, they will do everything they can to make the labor & delivery go smoothly. Also discuss pain relief. The epidural works wonderfully.

Answer 2

I was scared the first time too.
I just read everything there was to read about giving birth so there wouldn't be any surprises and I'll know exactly what my body was doing and that it was completely normal.

It'll probalby take a while but acceptance of the facts of birthing are the key to overcoming your fear. Just know that there will be pain but it won't last anywhere near forever.
Plus all those videos that show the mothers being blissfully happy the second after pushing out their babies are completely ture.
I didn't believe it at first and thought that I would never feel so happy after going through so much agony but I did!
Just remember that the joy you'll feel after giving birth will be like nothing you'll experience ever again in your entire life.

Btw, giving birth goes much faster without pain meds like epidurals and demerol. They actually slow the birthing process down which means that you're in labor for much longer than necessary.
Oh and the pushing part is actually the best part of giving birth. The worst part is when you're dilating.
Good luck and I hope I haven't given you too much info to scare you but I feel if you know what you're getting into you'll be much more prepared to handle it.
Again, good luck!

Answer 3

I was absolutely terrified about giving birth and spoke to my dr about having an elective CS because I was so worried.

I ended up having a natural birth and I'm so glad I did. What really helped me was going to National Childbirth Trust classes. They give you a lot of facts and training (more than the NHS) as to your choices during birth and techniques to get through it. I found it really helpful because it meant that I felt as though I had a lot more control over the situation rather than feeling as though I was just at the mercy of my own body. You will find that understanding your own choices about the sort of birth you want, what to ask for in terms of pain-relief and what each one's side effects are and even what to expect will help a lot.

If you can't afford to do NCT classes or there isn't one in your area then speak to your midwife and ask for a tour of the hospital (some NHS hospitals offer this anyway). Perhaps spending a little while looking around the birth suites, understanding the equipment and why its there and getting to know some of the midwives will go some way to alliviating your fears. You should also try and make sure that your birthing partner comes with you because their support will be instrumental in getting you through the birth and the more they know, the more they'll be able to help.

At the end of the day, giving birth in the UK is very safe and there are all sorts of pain relief options available to you, so there is every chance that you'll look back on the birth of your baby as one of the happiest days of your life! And dont forget that nor matter how bad it is it'll all be over sooner than you think and you'll have a beautiful baby. It is true what they say - you forget about it all as soon as that little person is put in your arms!

Answer 4

I was scared before i had my son 3 1/2 years ago, was 19 and had no idea what to expect, i went to 2 antenatal and then gave up as i live in a tiny area where young mums are frowned upon and me and my partener got really picked on.

I only knew what people had told me, and i was petrified. But when it came down to it it wasnt half as bad as i had imagined! My son came within 2 1/2 hours i only needed gas and air and no stitches, he was a healthy 8lb 5oz and beautiful which makes up for everything you have to go through anyways.

Please dont worry, everyone goes through it, and if it was really so bad ladies wouldnt go on to have 2 or 3 more....must be worth it hey.

To be honest the only bit i wasnt warned about and noone seems to prepare you for is how sore you are after. I admit thats uncomfortable. But after 2 weeks you're fine.

Just don't think about it, don't worry about it, enjoy the feeling of being pregnant and corss that bridge when you come to it. Go in with an open mind, dont think of what it could be like. Just wait and see. At the end of the day its a ntural process, you'll be in safe hands and there are painkillers of you need them :)

Good luck and congratulations :)

x

Answer 5

When I was pregnant the first time (he's 8 now) I became terrified around 6 or 7 months into it. I think prior to that I hadn't given much thought to the fact that he was coming out in one of two ways and neither looked appealing. I took a birthing class , they showed videos and said things like ... a lot of women vomit , a lot of women have bowel movements , bring good smelling lotions and stuff because the labor and delivery room will get stinky. They Really freaked me out more. I was obsessed with how painful and embarrassing it was going to be and how inevitable it was. However , when the time came it really was not as bad as the horror story I was picturing in my head. The breathing exercises I learned really saved me until I was far enough a long for the epideral and then its all easy sailing from there . I slept soundly for 5 hrs while I continued to dialate to 10cm then he was pushed out in half an hour. It really was not bad. Just talk to your doctor a head of time and find out if he/she does episiotomies or believes in letting you tear and ask how long they will let you push/labor before they get involved and help you out. Don't let anyone tell you their horror stories.... As scared as I was the first time , I made it through and did it 2 more times. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Yep, I was shitting my pants about it.

It does hurt, its not nice, but its one day out of your life, and you will survive and probably go on to have more.

Give the gas and air a go - its quite funny. Makes u feel a bit sick to begin with, but that passes and then it really can help. It makes you talk absolute crap though, so beware - i told my midwife every sex position id ever done and that my husband was hung like a horse. She found it all quite funny, my husband wasnt best pleased, but at least i could blame it on the drugs!

i wrote out a birth plan, that went out the window once labour started, i didnt do anything I had originally planned, I ended up just doing things at my own pace and doing what I felt I wanted at the time.

it is frightening, but its gonna happen, you cant stop it now! Just remember to do what you feel comfortable with. If you want to pace up and down during labour, or walk about, sit in water, shout (i did - a lot!) or squat down and grunt through the pain, you do whatever you feel in most comfortable. to be honest, when you are in labour, you really dont give a toss about what other people think, the midwives have seen and heard it all, so just do what you want.

See how well you cope with labour, you may not need an epidural, not everyone does. Give the gas & air a go, breathing slowly and deeply helps, back rubs, etc, yuo may find you can cope with the pain better than you realise. if not, the epidural is there for you if you want one.

The midwife will be with you to help you, lift you up, turn you round to more comfortable positions, thats their job and they are there to help you, and help you through the pain.

All the best, take some wet wipes in to labour - it gets hot!

Big hugs,

lorraine xxxx

Answer 7

I was very scared of giving birth and near the end of the pregnancy thought that every twinge I had was the start of labour! I read up on all the techniques and about what could possibly happen so I was prepared! I hope it all goes well for you, try not to worry!

Answer 8

try to calm down. i had a few weeks of being scared of actual delivery and then i spoke to tons of women about delivery and i started to feel better.
i asked my mom, grandma, sister, friends, aunts, etc about all of their deliveries and i realized that the more scared you are going into it, the worse you make it for yourself.

if you are really freaked, then take some lamaze classes. even if you plan on having an epidural or even a c-section, the lamaze classes can help you by teaching some relaxation techniques that help moms in labor.

most women i talked to told me that once you start to labor, you just get so focused on your job of getting the baby out, that everything else just becomes secondary.

so, i am due in 6 weeks and i've stopped worrying. i am pretty sure i will get an epidural and i know now, that i just need to focus on my job and it'll be fine!!!!

what you're feeling is TOTALLY normal! just don't let it overwhelm you:)

take care and you're getting there!!!
in a few weeks--don't be surprised if you start to feel like "ok i'm DONE being pregnant!"
i had been feeling great, but i'm getting close to the finish line and i'm just plain sick of being pregnant:) i was scared, but now....well, it's more like....o.k. when can i start pushing??? :)

Answer 9

I'm not pregnant, but would love to have children and the idea of childbirth itself is pretty daunting - my poor mum had a terrible time with my brother. However, my colleague who had a little boy 6 months ago was absolutely terrified and really worked herself about, however, when she came to it, although she said it was hard work and painful, it was nowhere near as bad as she had been thinking. So, be calm, you'll get through it, and have a wonderful miracle at the end!!

Answer 10

It is always on the mind of a pregnant women. I have experienced it 3 times and ready to again. You just need to relax and not think about it because it will happen no matter what you do. Yes, I hurts but it is the best experience in the world. trust me and good luck!