My mother died on Sunday and it is the funeral next Wed. Is it wrong that i want to go away for a couple of days without my boyfriend to be by myself after the funeral??
2006-07-28 02:11:33 · 35 answers · asked by Kirsty y 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I left my wife for 6mouths after my uncle died it was devastating to me, he died in a motor cycle accident we had a reel close relationship we were best friends and as close as brothers I went out trying to chase that big hole in my hart that I was missing when I fount out what it was I was chasing I came back home and got everything right with my family and got on with my life, so whats a couple of days.
2006-07-28 02:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by maniac 4 · 10⤊ 2⤋
Sorry for your loss, firstly.
No, of course it isn't wrong that you want to have some space and time to think. However, it's a shame that you don't see your boyfriend as someone who would be a comfort and support to you during your grieving, even if it means keeping his distance but by being there to hold you, look after you or make you meals.
Don't make the mistake of going away and being more depressed and lonely by yourself, than you would be with him by your side. I'm sure he'll understand if you need the time away, but just make it clear to him that it's not that you don't consider him a support, just that you find solace in your own company.
I hope you're ok. Take care.
2006-07-28 02:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear about your mom's death. And yes you do need to take some time to mourn it and maybe alone. However; this is also a loss to your boyfriend I would imagine and perhaps you should do some grieving together before you go off on your own. Not knowing your age, length of relationship or how close your boyfriend was with your mom it's kind of hard to say. But that would be my suggestion. Again I am sorry about your loss.
2006-07-28 02:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all.. everyone deals with grief in their own unique way... some people need the closeness of their loved ones and others... like myself prefer to be alone until I come to grips with it. If you feel you need alone time then your boyfriend should love you enough to respect your wishes... and you could always let him know that if you get wherever you are going that you might change your mind and ask him to join you but for now you just need some private time to deal with your grief and you hope he can respect you for that.
2006-07-28 02:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not wrong. You need to go and clear your head, and being by yourself can be healing all on its own. Dont feel bad about leaving him at home and going away.I have lost my mother and know exactly how you are feeling right now, it is the hardest thing to lose your mom, and as a girl we deal with things differently.Time by yourself can really help the healing process.
Take care
2006-07-28 02:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's alright. You can totally do that. If your boyfriend really cared about u he'll let you be alone, he probably will be sad. But he has to understand that your mom just died and you need some alone time to cope with the grief. Sorry for your lost.
2006-07-28 02:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by SF71321 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong. Right now u need some space to get over everything..but maybe being alone wont help u a lot so try talking to him and see how u feel
2006-07-28 02:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by scartissue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isn't wrong, everyone grieves differently. im sorry for your loss. explain to him that you need some alone time to think about the past memories and how your future will be without your mother and how you want your life to be and end up like. be considerate, don't push him away, he probably feels like he should be there to comfort you .
2006-07-28 02:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by princessashley2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it is wrong, because you need to be by yourself after a trajic time. This just means you need somke time to get over the sadness and refresh yourself. There is nothing wrong with going without your boyfriend becaue if you go with him there will be someone else and you said you wanted to go on your own.
2006-07-28 02:18:10 · answer #9 · answered by diamondeyesx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all im very very sorry for your loss.
As for going away on your own - no, its your way of dealing with this and your boyfriend should be 100% behind your decision.
However, he might be hurt that you dont want him to help you through this time, so I would explain to him thats its nothing against him but you feel time alone would be the best way for you to cope with your loss
2006-07-28 03:54:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋