what is going on in my life. Im being tugged here and there by friends and no one thinks I need a break. I missed an important appointment this week because I was busy with another friend pulling me into her problems and spending time with her too much.When I get home another is on the phone for two hours talking about hers. Helppppppp I need a break and yet its hard for me not to try to help because these people were there for me when I had mine. I hope you understand what Im trying to say.
2006-07-28 00:41:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Im worried they will think im selfish if I ask for some quality time for me.
2006-07-28 00:46:37 · update #1
I know what you are talking about, I help all my friends like you and I am the one who always sacrifices I have gotten wiser I was there for my friend thur his divorce, Money and the lending ear I was there always and my family suffered for it. Guess what he finally found a girlfriend and hes not a loud to talk to me now. So now I am out money time and family and I am very alone now. PUT YOURSELF FIRST.
2006-07-28 00:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know there is only so much of "you" to go around and if you don't have a chance to recharge and plug back into yourself, you have nothing of value to offer these so called friends. Tell them you need a break and that although you love them, you cannot miss appointments or neglect yourself any longer. You don't have to answer the phone. You don't have to let people walk all over you. And sometimes the best friend you can be is one that doesn't give advice, just listens. You are letting these people suck you dry. They can't do it unless you allow them, and that's not good for anyone. So...love yourself first! Take some time away from their problems and get on with YOUR life.
2006-07-28 00:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to honestly tell your friends that you need some time for YOU. If they don't understand this, then they aren't friends. You are spreading yourself too thin - it's nice that you are a good friend and want to listen and help, but you've taken on everybody else's problems and now have no time to come or go. Talk to them immediately and say you need a break. A lot of times people take on other's problems in order to avoid their own - make sure this is not what you're doing.
2006-07-28 00:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I know what you mean. My best friend only phones me and wants to see me when something drastic has happened to her. She always cries and regrets, but she doesnt learn from it.I suggest you tell your friends you need a break and you just want to be alone for a while. Just be honest with the advice and just be honest about how you feel. If they dont understand then I dont know. What I said to my friend is that she must stop feeling sorry for herself and that I dont want to be in a negative atmosphere, because then I start feeling negative.i know it sounds cruel and ugly, but I was going out of my mind and desperate times call for desperate measures.Good luck!!!
2006-07-28 00:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I do
well I guess your going to have to be the strong one and just say no not tonight I am really tired and need a break. But i know how you feel thats for sure. take care and good luck
2006-07-28 00:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by puffyjo2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know what you are feeling. Tell them that you have to have time to yourself and you got things to do but if they need your help you will be there as long as it doesn't interfere with your schedule.
2006-07-28 00:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by Diamond Freak :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 07:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your choice you either put there plans off or yours. myself i got to take care of number one first
2006-07-28 00:56:53 · answer #8 · answered by gene r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋