we have been with each other when ever we can for over 2 years. She is now having the problems of running into our friends when she is out eating with her husband and daughter. Her daughter is the main problem. She is married but is sitll the "baby". ALWAYS gets what she wants!! Eats daily with parent, they always pay. She has mom pick up her meds, mom pays. Her husband is more like a room mate. (like her moms) NOW her mom don't know what to do with our relationship because she is affraid of losing her daughter.. We love each other very much , but she might end up a martyr and stay in her dead marrige for her daughter!! Her daughter has mild stage of MS and blames her mom for this also.. please advise her which way to go.. SHE IS VERY UPSET OVER ALL THIS,and doesn't want to loose her daughters love.. I told her she wouldn't loose her any way because she depends on her too much!!! SUGGESTIONS PLEASE !!!!!!!
2006-07-28 00:09:38 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are talking about a mother and child bond here you cant just go ripping that apart i understand you wanna be with this women but for some reason and i good one im sure she wants to stay with her daughter and maybe just throwin this one out there she is afraid of being with you what might happen if it doent work with you and her
2006-07-28 00:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say the husband needs to file for divorce. Maybe just live as room mates, sounds like she is addicted to her daughter. Her daughter may be putting her mother on a guilt trip about the MS.
Mom, put your foot down, or up your daughters behind, let her know that you have a life (use to ) and want to get back to it, apparantly, she knows what to do for her MS, she's married, it's time she leans on her husband more, and less on you. Let your child grow up. Only YOU can stop this "supporting" habit that you have put yourself into. Yes it will be hard at first, although... IF something (God forbid) would happen to you tomorrow, did you raise a daughter to be able to take care and care for herself? Or~would she lay down and give up because Mom passed on. Think about this, it's all YOU!
2006-07-28 01:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by john's brat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋